It’s not an uncommon feeling. Especially among college students. No you aren’t depressed and no you are not selfish for feeling this way. It’s completely normal. From time to time I find myself questioning my goals and dreams. Sometimes I’m not sure I am living up to my full potential. But I found there are things to help ease this feeling of seeming irrelevant and unnoticed.
#1: Focus on your work. Or as a college student your classes. Or in my case both. Make sure you have everything you need done. Finish your homework, get to work on time, and be the best that you can be. You don’t have to have it all together. You also don’t have to be the best, just make sure you are doing your best!
#2: Ask yourself if this is what you really want. Sometimes we feel irrelevant because what we are doing is irrelevant to us. Maybe it’s your job, and it’s time for a change. Maybe you are not happy at your current school and you are looking for a change. Maybe you are unhappy in your current relationship. If it’s one (or multiple) of these things you may need to cut lose, or at least try to figure out the exact problem and fix it.
#3: Know your worth. You are not, under any circumstance, irrelevant. So if you are feeling this way make sure you take some time for yourself. Understand who you are and what your worth is. Value yourself and understand your worth. This will help dissolve some of these empty feelings because you will no who you are and what you want out of life. And once you know those things, go get them!
#4: Use your support system. Whether it’s family, a friend or a group thereof, or a significant other, most people have a support system. I highly encourage you to USE THEM. Not only are they willing to listen, but they can also remind you of what you mean to them and why you are important.
#5: Go somewhere. Whether it’s to the park or another country getting away may help you. You are more likely to be able to clear your head and find peace. And who knows? You might even make a new friend!
#6: Volunteer. There is no better feeling than knowing that you are helping someone else. Giving of your time will be beneficial to all parties. Not only are you helping others, but the more time you occupy yourself, the less time you spend feeling small and irrelevant.
Like I said, feeling irrelevant is normal. We all go through periods in our lives where we are unsure of ourselves. The important thing is not to dwell on these feelings, and instead find things and people that help us see our worth. Everyone has a purpose. So use your feeling of emptiness as a motivating factor to find yours. Don’t be afraid to branch out and try new things!
Love, Geeky Girl