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With that being said let’s move on to today’s post. It’s Monday, so you may need some motivation and encouragement. Well that’s what my Monday posts are for! Today, being my first Monday posting, will be about the absence of and what to do about it. So let’s get started!
Motivation comes both internally and externally. Some people are great at self-motivation, while others need a little push from an outside force. We live in a society today that does a great job at using various techniques to motivate us. The issue with that is their “techniques” often leave us feeling weak and helpless. We feel the need to change ourselves or do whatever we are being told to do. And instead of motivating ourselves, we seek the approval of others.
So what do you do about that? Is there a way to stop seeking the approval of others and motivate yourself into a content life? Sure there is. And here are just a few ways to do that.
We sometimes lack motivation to do certain things because we feel forced. Whether we are forcing ourselves or we feel as though someone else is forcing us, it’s unpleasant. We feel insecure and hopeless. We find it difficult to motivate ourselves because we take the wrong approach. We approach the task by yelling at ourselves and tearing ourselves down. If this is something you find yourself doing, try taking a different approach. Talk to yourself as you would a good friend. Ask yourself what you would say to a friend if they had this task and needed motivation. How you would motivate a friend is the same way you should motivate yourself.
Another problem we have when it comes to motivation is we see a large task that is seemingly impossible. It could take a long time. And if you’re like me focusing on a large task is difficult because I don’t want to focus on it. Especially if it’s something I don’t want to do. So instead of focusing on this large task, break it down to small tasks that you can complete. Instead of “clean house”, try breaking it down into “clean kitchen”, “clean living room”, “clean bathroom”. And you can even take it a step further and break it down even more. Like when you clean the bathroom you can say “clean sink”, “clean toilet”, clean shower”, etc. These are small, manageable tasks.
Another very serious reason for a lack of motivation is people pleasing. We constantly feel as though we are doing things for other people and we don’t do enough for ourselves. We need a break, but we can’t stop helping others. Don’t get me wrong, helping other people is great, but it can wear us down and cause us to be unmotivated. A solution is to find an appropriate balance. Balance the needs of others with your own. After all, you can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first. Give yourself your best, so you can in turn give your best to others.
We tend to fixate on the fact that a task or situation is unpleasant. “Oh, I don’t want to wash the dishes. It’s so boring.” Or, “Oh I don’t want to do that assignment because I don’t care for that class.” Instead of focusing on the task, focus on the end result. Clean dishes, a completed assignment. It all means less stress later.
One of the biggest problems we create for ourselves is we procrastinate. We put things off until the last minute. It puts an unbelievable amount of pressure on our mind and body. Don’t put anything off until the last minute. Always complete tasks as soon as you can. This way the pressure to do it well is off.
Another problem we have is we sometimes fear change. We could have a better life, but we don’t want to go through change. We would rather stay where we are because at least we are comfortable. We can’t motivate ourselves until we are okay with change. So don’t be afraid to grow and allow life to change. Different doesn’t mean bad and it doesn’t have to be scary.
Be content. It’s scary when you don’t know what will happen next. But live in the moment and live it to it’s fullest. Take nothing and no one for granted. Seize every opportunity and capitalize whenever you can. Be confident and take control of your life. Your life is your own. No one has one like yours. So do what you want and need to do. Find whatever motivates you and use it. You know what works for you better than anyone.
I hope these tips and tricks helped. Happy Monday! I hope you have a great week. Find your own kind of motivation to get whatever you need to get done completed. Happy reading!
Love, Geeky Girl