Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are enjoying your week. Today I wanted to talk about something that has been requested. This is something that I have help back about because I know that this may be a trigger for some. If this is you, come back tomorrow. I won’t be talking about anything like this then. But for now I wanted to share a little bit into some of my past relationships and the small signs of an abusive relationship. Most of us know the bigger signs, but I wanted to share the small signs that really do mean something if you are not careful.
It moves really fast and you’re not on the same page.
Some relationships move really fast and it’s okay because both people are on the same page. They both want the same things and they are aware of the other person’s needs and desires. However, if you feel it is moving faster than you want, it may be a sign that your relationship is or could be abusive. This is not true for all relationships, but it is something to watch for early on.
Jealousy is a big issue.
All couples have this problem at some point I think. No one is really completely secure all the time. However, if jealousy is coming up as a common topic of discussion or argument, you may need to look at getting out of the relationship. Your partner may feel insecure and start trying to control you. If this is the case, I highly recommend removing yourself as soon as possible.
They obsessively check up on you.
This ties in with the whole jealousy issue. If you feel as though you are being suffocated or you can’t have your own life, the relationship may be abusive. If your partner needs to know where you are at all times and what you are doing and who you are with, you may need to evaluate your relationship. This is a sign that they are trying to control you and you need to get out while you can.
They put your down.
Emotional abuse is one of the most difficult forms of abuse because it is difficult to go through and harder to prove. If your partner is putting you down and making you feel insecure, this is a definite sign of an abusive relationship. It is never easy to let someone go, but you should be with someone who lifts you up and wants you to be a better version of yourself. Not someone who puts you down and makes you think you have to be a different person.
You feel like there are two sides to them.
This is one of the more difficult signs to recognize, but if you ever catch yourself feeling as though there are two versions of your partner, it may be time to let go. You should have someone who is willing to be open and honest with you, not someone who hides behind personas. Dealing with someone who has two different sides can be extremely dangerous and may turn ugly without you being prepared.
If at any point you feel like you are being isolated or you can’t be yourself, you should be weary of the other signs as well. It is important to be able to recognize if you are in an abusive relationship as soon as possible. If you feel like you are and need help, reach out to someone you trust and someone that can help. There is no shame in asking for help.
Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope this is helpful for anyone looking. Please remember to reach out if you need help or feel in danger. Find someone to help. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!