Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I wanted to do a relationship post. These are highly requested and today I wanted to do something a little different. I wanted to share with you the things I need before I even consider getting married. These are things are absolutely essential and things I am striving for in any of my future relationships. So here are ten things I need to do before I get married.
1. Establish a true acceptance of my partner.
Whoever my partner is, I need to truly accept them. I need to be able to accept their good qualities and their bad. No one is perfect and no one can live a perfect life, but I need to be able to accept someone for who they are before I can consider marrying them. I need to know as much about them and their past as I can. Because if I can’t accept them, things won’t go very smoothly.
2. Rid myself of my immaturities.
Like I said, no one is perfect, and that includes me. I need to work on letting so of some of my insecurities and issues that I have before I can get married. I need to work on my own negative traits. I’m sure they will never all go away, but I can work on them while I can and work on bettering myself.
3. Love who I am and have true confidence.
I have come a long way, as has my confidence. However it is still not exactly where I want it to be. So I want to work on loving myself and taking care of myself. That way I can give myself fully and confidently to whomever comes along that I consider marrying and being with forever.
4. Feel like I have, and will continue to, follow my dreams.
When I am in a relationship, I never want to feel like my partner is holding me back or holding me down in any way. I want to feel as though I am able to live my life and follow my dreams alongside the person I am with. It is important that I am with someone who supports and encourages me.
5. Let go of unfair expectations of myself.
I often find myself having unrealistic expectations of myself. I expect to be perfect and not make mistakes. I struggle with accepting when things don’t go as planned. It’s important for me to let go of that mindset and just live my life. I need to learn to have more realistic expectations of myself so I can be authentic for my partner.
6. Understand that I don’t need to rush any stage of life.
I am still young. I am only 22. There is no need to rush into any stage of life. God has perfect timing and when it is time for things to happen, they will happen. All I can do is continue to grow and work on myself and know that when the time comes, I will know and I will be ready.
7. Understand what I require from life for true happiness.
I need to figure out what is going to make me happy in life. Money, success, a family, or anything else that brings me happiness and joy. I need to know what I require and what I value most in this world so I can start working to make that a reality. It is important for me to know what I need so I am not depending on someone else.
8. Stop making decisions out of fear.
Oh man, I can’t tell you how many times I have made some really bad decisions just because I was scared. I really need to stop doing it. Whether it is deciding to do something because I am afraid or deciding not to because I am afraid, I need to stop letting fear control my decision-making process.
9. Understand the importance of understanding.
I like to think of myself as a pretty understanding person. But I think sometimes I am understanding to a fault. So I need to learn the importance of understanding and what it means to be overly understanding. I need to trust myself and know when things are not okay and communicate that.
10. To feel loved and to love.
And finally, a very important thing that I need before I get married is to feel loved by the person I am with and to love them back. And I mean real love, not just puppy love. I need to be able to love them for who they are and I need to feel that they love me for who I am. I need to know that there is a solid foundation for the future to come.
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