Hey guys! Welcome back. Not long ago I was in a very serious relationship with someone I thought I was going to marry. We were engaged, the date was set (basically), and all was right in my life. But then things started to change. I realized things weren’t as blissful as I thought they would be and they only kept getting worse. This all led me to break off the engagement to prevent staying in a relationship that I was unhappy with. And through this process I learned some valuable life lessons and I wanted to share them with you. So here are five life lessons I learned after I broke off my engagement.
1. I Learned to rely on myself.
After breaking off my engagement, I realized that I don’t need someone else to complete me. I am whole on my own. And I didn’t really understand that until I went from having someone in my life to not having them in my life anymore. I realized that I don’t really need anyone in my life because I am more than capable of handling things on my own. But it’s about wanting people in my life and knowing that I can trust people.
2. I reinforced my support system.
Going through such a major break up was really difficult for me. However, going through it brought me closer to the other people in my life. From friends to family, there were so many amazing people who came together to support me and help get me through this extremely difficult time. And now I have never been in a better place, so I feel really grateful.
3. I demanded more from myself.
Going into the relationship I knew I was lowering my standards. And it was my own fault for letting someone in my life who I knew didn’t share the same values and standard of living that I do. Not that either one of us was more right or better than the other, I just knew that going into we didn’t align on some of the major aspects of life. So I learned to not lower my standards and hold myself to the standards that I have for any future partners and relationships.
4. I demanded more from potential partners.
From now on all potential partners have to check off certain criteria. It’s nothing too crazy and it’s really not a lot. I just want someone who is kind, hard working, independent, and always strives to be better. I want to be in a relationship with someone I can grow with and build a better life with. So now that I have experienced what I have experienced, I know what I want in any of my future partner(s) and what I need to be living up to myself.
5. I learned what I value in a relationship.
I want someone who is my partner. I don’t want to have to carry all the weight. I want to build a life that we share. It’s important to be able to depend on your partner, but one person should not be carrying all the weight. It is important to be on the same page because otherwise one partner will be extremely unhappy and may end up being resentful. That’s just not the kind of relationship that I want to have.
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