Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I wanted to share something that has been on my mind a lot lately. As the new year started I reflected on previous years and I came to realize just how many times I wanted to give up. I really wanted to just let go and stop trying. And if I had given up then I wouldn’t be where I am right now and I wouldn’t be the person that I am today. So I wanted to give you a few things to remember if you feel like giving up or you feel like you don’t matter.
You are not alone.
In a world with billions of people and all the people we have in our lives, it’s sometimes really easy to feel like you are alone. You may feel as though people don’t understand or you don’t want to share with others what you are dealing with. But it’s important to know that you are not alone. There is always someone out there who has gone through or is going through what you are struggling with. On the days that you feel irrelevant or insignificant, it may not make you feel better to know that others are struggling too. But once you share with someone how you are feeling and you get that “me too” it helps you because you can find a little peace knowing you have someone you can share with.
When other people treat you like you don’t matter, it’s a reflection on them.
I have had my fair share of experiences with people who treat me like I don’t matter. And I used to be really unhappy because of those people. However, I came to realize that those people who treat me like that don’t treat me that way because of me or anything that I have done. It is because they have something going on or they are a certain way that causes them to treat others that way. When you go through abuse, neglect, or even abandonment, you tend to move on thinking that you deserved it in some way. But the truth is you didn’t deserve it because no one deserves to be treated that way. People don’t treat you poorly because of you. They do because they are who they are. And you can’t change people. You can only hope to grow and move on from it as soon as you can.
You don’t have to do big things to matter.
It is easy to think that you have to do something big to make a difference. But the truth is just living your life is a big enough thing because no one else can be you. Being your authentic self and staying true to yourself is enough for this world. Your meaning and your worth doesn’t just come from the things you accomplish. It comes from how you treat people, and your work ethic, and your desire to do good things. It comes from the person you are. It’s true that the big things have an impact. But it’s also true that not everyone needs huge accomplishments to make an impact. Not everyone will be someone everyone knows. But you can be someone that someone else loves. And that is the most important thing.
You have impacted more people than you think.
I used to think that I wasn’t really impacting anyone around me. I kept to myself, let things pass by me, and didn’t really try to connect with people. But then I started realizing that people still knew me. They recognized me. And I started to come out a little bit more and start forming relationships with people. Just because you try to blend in and not stand out doesn’t mean people don’t notice you. Because someone always notices. So even if you are just listening to someone, you are impacting them. I still have people tell me everyday how much of an impact I have on their lives. And it’s crazy to think that it’s doing something small like just being there to listen and care. Kindness is something that is very rare, but has a bigger impact than you know. So remember to be kind and you will impact more people than you will ever come to realize.
You matter to people you haven’t even met.
I think back to the day that I almost killed myself many times. I think back and I realize that if I had died I wouldn’t have met any of the people I have met since then. I wouldn’t have met my best friend, I wouldn’t have had the best job in the world, and I wouldn’t get to know the amazing people that I have yet to meet. And I realize that even though I don’t know it right now, there are people in my future who I don’t know yet that I will have an impact on and who will have an impact on me. And maybe some of those people aren’t even born yet. So it’s important to keep moving forward because you never know who is coming that you haven’t met yet.
So the moral of the story is don’t give up yet. If you feel like you don’t matter or you aren’t having a more significant impact, you don’t really know. You don’t know how many people are depending on you and needing you in their lives. You don’t know what is coming in the future. So don’t give up on yourself because the world needs you. No one can be you better than you can, so keep being the person that you are. You will always matter more than you can ever know.
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