Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a great week. Today I wanted to share some things that it is important to know about yourself and your partner before you get engaged. These will help you be more prepared for what is coming and have a stronger relationship going into it. So here are some of the things I think are important to know before getting engaged.
If you are truly in love.
Are you really in love with the person? Or are you just in love with the idea of the person? There is a big difference and it can make or break the relationship. So it’s important to figure out how you feel and know if you really love the person before you commit to marrying them.
Your career goals.
While it’s important to know what their career goals, it is also really important to know what your career goals are. It’s important to know if getting engaged and married will affect those goals and if it does if you are willing to make the sacrifices needed to make your relationship work.
How you both feel about faith.
Some relationships can work if you have different faiths. Others don’t work out. So it’s really important to have those conversations about what you believe and what they believe. If they are the same that’s great. But if they aren’t you have to have a conversation about what that means for your relationship.
Your money habits.
You need to know their money habits and they need to know yours. You need to know how you will handle your finances and how you will budget your lives. Money is one of the biggest issues in most relationships, so it’s really important to start communicating these things early on.
If you want children.
It’s important to know if you both want children, how many you want, and when you want to have them. Don’t go into it thinking you will change your partner’s mind because chances are you probably won’t. So it’s important to make sure that you are both on the same page.
Each other’s family.
I cannot stress how important it is that you know their family and they know yours. You can’t assume anything about anyone. It’s important to know where they come from and what you are going to be entering into if you marry this person. And they need to know what they will be entering into.
Whether you like it or not, your past shapes who you are. It has an affect on you and the person that you are. And your partner’s past shapes them. So it’s important to know about past relationships, past traumas, and anything else about the past that you feel is important moving forward.
Each other’s worst qualities.
It is really important to know about each other’s worst qualities because we all have at least one. No one is perfect and if you haven’t figured out what your partner’s worst quality is yet, you need to figure it out before you get engaged or even consider it. Because you need to know if that is something you can handle.
Each other’s living habits.
Knowing how each other lives and how clean they are is really important because it’s another thing you need to know if you can live with. If you find out they are super messy when you like to be super clean, it can cause a lot of problems. So it’s important to learn early on so there are no surprises.
Knowing their hobbies isn’t something that should be a deal breaker, but it’s still good to know. Because their hobbies are what they will be spending a lot of time doing, so it’s good to know what they are and how important they are to them. It’s good for all of us to have hobbies, so don’t be afraid to ask.
Your views on household chores.
If you are going to get engaged and you aren’t already living together, this is really important to talk about. It’s important to know who will do what and how you will divide everything between the two of you. If not it could cause a lot of disagreements in the future that could be avoided.
What you want out of the future.
And finally, it’s important to discuss what you both want out of the future. Talk about the big goals and the big things you want out of your life. Decide what you want the basic timeline to look like so you can both be on the same page. This way you don’t have to have the conversation later.
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