Hey guys! Welcome back. If you have ever been through a serious break up before, I don’t have to tell you how difficult it is. We all know the feeling and the heartache that comes with realizing that the relationship truly is over. We know what the initial shock is like and the feelings that come after. Relationships ending are really difficult, and it makes moving on even more difficult. Which is why today I wanted to share some reasons why moving on is the scariest thing you will ever do.
You have to create new routines.
When you are with a certain person for a while you have your routines. There are things that you do daily, traditions that you have, and things you do with that person. Whether you live with that person or not, you just have a system that works for the both of you. So when a relationship ends one of the first things you have to do is create new routines for yourself. And this takes time because you have been so used to your old routines and you might still feel sad about the relationship ending. It feels like creating new routines means it really is over.
You will constantly be reminded of that relationship.
There will be things in your day-to-day life that remind you of that person and the relationship you had with them. There is no getting around it. So when you are trying to move forward and let go you don’t want those reminders. But knowing they will be there can feel very haunting and make you more sad. It makes the healing process seem even more impossible and letting go that much more difficult. But the truth is, that pain will probably always be there so you just have to find a way to let time do it’s job.
Re-planning your future.
If you were with this person for a significant amount of time, you were probably doing some planning for the future. Whether you were doing it together or you just had some of your own ideas in your head, there may have been some goals and dreams that you had that involved the other person. So when the relationship ends you have to take them out of those plans. You have to figure out what you are going to do without them and what your future now looks like.
There is some fear.
Moving on from someone you spent so much time with is really scary. They probably know you really well and you shared a lot with them. It can be difficult to have that kind of trust with someone new and you may even be afraid that you might not find somebody new. Oh, but you will. Don’t worry. You have to accept that the relationship is over and that you will eventually start over with someone new. You will have to open up all over again and it can be difficult and scary.
Reopening your heart.
With the idea that there will be someone new in the future, you have the thoughts in your mind that you will have to reopen your heart. Right now it is broken and you are really sad and upset. You might be struggling to find who you are and what you want to do next. But don’t worry about reopening your heart because this heart break taught you so much about what you want and what you don’t want. The next relationship will hopefully be better.
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