Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a great weekend. Today I wanted to talk about something that I haven’t really talked about much here before. I have mentioned that I have been in therapy in the past, but I haven’t really been open about the fact that I am currently in therapy. Not because I was ashamed of it or wanted to hide it, just because I needed it to be my own private thing for a while.
But I have been doing online therapy through Better Help for a few months now. It has been helping me work through a great deal of things from daily anxiety and depression to some deeper traumas from my past. And today I wanted to share some of the most important things that I have taken away from my time in therapy so far. I’m not finished with therapy, but I wanted to share just a few takeaways with you.
That negative voice inside you is just a reflection of your fears.
When I started talking about all of things that I want to do, it is nearly always followed with “But I can’t”. And the reason for that is because there is always some kind of fear holding me back. And over the past few months I have learned that the negative voice telling me I can’t do something or I shouldn’t do something because I’m not good enough or I don’t have enough is just me being afraid of trying something and failing. And at the end of the day if something is worth it and I have the right amount of passion for it, I will do the hard work needed to get there. I won’t listen to the negative voice.
The other voice reflects the real you.
Almost all of us have that negative voice in us, but we also have the real voice. The voice that is the real version of us. It’s the voice that gives us our thoughts, ideas, and passions. It’s the voice that motivates us and gives us drive. That voice is the real voice. It’s the voice we should listen to. That’s the voice that is going to take us places and get us where we want to go. I have really learned in the past month or so what it means to listen to the right voice and listen to what I really want to do. There are always going to be reasons not to do things, but I know if it really matters to me I will work hard to get there.
Whatever you are feeling is valid.
Anger, sadness, frustration, depression, loneliness, and anxiety are all valid. It doesn’t matter why you feel those way or how they came about. You are allowed to feel the way you feel. It took me a really long time to understand that because I always suppressed my emotions. I never opened up to anyone about how I was feeling or any of the bad things that happened. I still struggle with that. But I have learned that my feelings are valid and the right people will care enough to listen and help me work through those feelings. I shouldn’t have to go through them alone.
You don’t have to be perfect.
I used to walk through life walking on eggshells and trying really hard to be perfect. And I still struggle with that now except now I’m just trying to be good enough. I’m not really worried about being perfect, I just want to be enough. But I have learned that perfection doesn’t exist. I can’t be everything for everyone. What one person wants me to do and what another person wants me to do could be two completely different things and I can’t do both. So all I can do is do what I think is best for me and live my own life by making my own decisions. I don’t have to be perfect for anyone.
Being nice to yourself makes everything easier.
Life is really tough sometimes and we all face battles that never make things easier. But I have learned that being nice to myself and not constantly tearing myself down really does make a huge difference. My perception of myself and the way I view myself is way better now that I choose to be more positive and kind to myself. I have found my life to be way easier when I am not constantly thinking about the things I want to change or how I can be different. I have learned to be happy with who I am and let change and growth happen naturally.
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