Hey guys! Welcome back. My parents have been divorced for quite a few years now. And while it was a strange transition, it is something that I was able to learn quite a bit from. So today I wanted to share some of the things that I learned about relationships from my divorced parents because even though their relationship ended, it still provided me with quite a bit of insight.
I can still be a good partner.
Most people think if your parents are divorced then you won’t be as good of a partner because you don’t have a model of what a successful relationship is. But I don’t think that’s always the case. I think that I had some really good examples of what to do in a relationship and what not to do. So even though their relationship ended doesn’t mean they failed me in any way. It just means that they knew it was time to do what was best and move on and think they are both much happier now.
Communication is crucial.
Communication was never a big thing in our household growing up. Because of that I’m not great at communicating now. And I learned that when it comes to having a successful and happy relationship with anyone, it’s important to communicate and talk things out. Otherwise things just keep getting bottled up and it’s really difficult to move forward. So as I saw the decline of their relationship I really learned how important communication is and why it should always be a priority.
Don’t ignore an ongoing issue.
Ignoring an issue doesn’t make it go away. And if it’s an ongoing issue and you keep ignoring it, it only continues to get bigger and then more problems are added on to it. This is just one of the many times that communication being important really comes into play. So I really learned that when an issue comes up you have to talk about it and work through it as soon as possible. Otherwise it doesn’t go away and you might end up with some resentment.
Love isn’t everything, but it is important.
If you don’t love the person you are with or even like being around them, then your relationship won’t last very long. You can try to make it work, but without love it’s hard to keep moving forward. Love isn’t enough to keep it going, but I saw how important it is and what happens to a relationship when the love disappears. It’s hard for both people in the relationship and everything just seems forced. If you don’t love someone it’s best to just let them go.
It’s not always just one person’s fault.
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has flaws. No one is perfect. And just because a relationship ends doesn’t mean it’s any one person’s fault. Sometimes there are things that were just never resolved or things that just can’t be worked through. It doesn’t always have to be one big thing that ended it all. Sometimes people just find that it’s not working or they aren’t happy together anymore. So even though it may seem like someone’s fault, it doesn’t always have to be.
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