Hey guys! Welcome back. My life has changed a great deal over the past few years and it continues to change everyday. With that I wanted to be very open and honest about some of the pitfalls I have fallen into because of that. I love sharing the good habits that I work on having and the positive things I do to cope with everything going on, but if we’re being completely honest it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. I have had habits that I’m not completely proud of.
So today I wanted to share those with you. I would like to open up and share a side of me that you don’t always get to see. It’s not that I’m hiding it on purpose or anything, it’s just that I prefer to share more positivity and light with you. But I think this is important to share because hopefully it helps you see that if you are struggling with any or all of these that you are not alone. We all have demons and struggles that follow us around. We all have bad habits that we with we could quit. Here are mine.
1. Being overly productive.
You might not think that this is really a bad habit, but in reality it actually is super toxic. Because I spent so many years thinking I had to be working on something all day, everyday there were very few moments that I really had to myself. I struggled with building relationships with people because I was too busy worrying about what I could be doing when I was talking to someone or spending time with someone.
There is still a part of me that struggles with this today, but I have been better about resting and not thinking I always have to be working on something. I try to make sure that I making moments for myself and doing things that I enjoy just for the heck of it. But being overly productive all the time really did destroy my mental health. It caused me to think if I wasn’t always doing something that I wasn’t doing enough.
2. Looking at social media every 30 minutes.
I’m not really the kind of person to scroll Instagram for hours and lose track of time. Instead, I’m the kind of person who will pick up my phone and look at social media every thirty minutes or so to see what other people are doing. And this is super toxic because even though I am really goo about putting my phone down while I’m trying to get something done, I still struggled with constantly refreshing social media.
It’s not the worst habit that I have had, but it’s something I wanted to mention because it has been a struggle. It makes it difficult for me to be content with my own life and be happy where I am because I see so many other people doing what I want to do. So I have had to work really hard to overcome that and spend more time in my own little world and work towards what I want.
3. Isolating myself.
This is a big one. Probably the biggest one to be completely honest. I have a really bad habit of isolating myself from literally everyone. There are many reasons for this. Everything from believing that people don’t want me around to thinking that I’m not good enough for people. All of these reasons and all of the things that I tell myself on a daily basis cause me to isolate myself.
And it’s no secret that it’s not a positive habit to have. Not only does it harm my relationships, but it also harms me. It allows me to buy into the negative things I am telling myself and forces me to believe that they are true. Struggling with isolating myself and avoiding people has caused me to really struggle with building healthy relationships, both with others and myself.
4. Not having a routine.
There were many years where I didn’t have a routine and I didn’t have any real structure in my life. Again, this isn’t the worst habit, but for me it does nothing good for me. I am absolutely the kind of person who needs a routine and needs to know what I’m doing everyday. It helps keep me grounded and focused. It also insures that I do not work on something for too long.
So not having a routine for a while really did negatively affect me. It caused me to focus too much on some things and not enough on others. It caused me to forget about things and procrastinate. All of this would cause stress and anxiety that could have been avoided if I had just set up a routine for myself. So I now know why I should always have a routine for my day-to-day life.
5. Retail therapy.
If I was going to list them in order of which ones are worse than others, this would be number two on the list. I spent so many years buying things I didn’t need and spending money just to be spending it that it not only damaged my wallet, but it also damaged my mind. It made me think that in order to feel good I needed to buy things and have things. It made me dependent on shopping.
It wasn’t my proudest moment and it is definitely something I would go back and change if I could, but the only thing I can really do is be better moving forward. It has been a very difficult habit to break, but even as I have been buying things for my new apartment, I have worked really hard on not buying too much and not buying things I don’t absolutely need right now.
So those are the toxic habits that really damaged my mental health. Some of them I still struggle with. Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed getting to see this different side of me. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments if you want to see more posts like this in the future and any ideas you have. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!
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