Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I am going to share some of the things that I learned when I stopped worrying about everyone else and started doing things because I wanted to. It’s definitely not something I ever thought I would do, but after years of trying to be what everyone else wanted me to be or thought I should be, I started doing my own thing. I started to realize that I had missed out on so many lessons and opportunities because I wasn’t making my own decisions. I was letting other people influence everything I did and everything I thought. It was so bad that I didn’t feel like my life was really my own anymore. So once I started doing more of my own thing, I started to learn some things that I felt were important to share with you today.
I Got To Know Myself.
Once I started pursuing myself and doing the things I wanted to do I started to open up more to things I hadn’t opened up to before. I realized things I liked, things I didn’t like, and dreams I had that had been tucked away and suppressed for so long. Pursuing myself in spite of everything else allowed me the chance to really get to know myself and my heart. It allowed me to grow and become my own person. I allowed myself to have my own opinions and my own dreams. It has allowed me to understand who I am, what I want, where I want to be, and why I am who I am. Pursuing myself took me from not thinking for myself to really getting to know myself.
Sometimes The Little Things Matter.
When it comes to living life on my own terms, sometimes the little details do matter. I got into the habit of not really worrying about the little things that would come up. I just kept hiding them until they became big things. But one thing I have learned is that when something small happens, you shouldn’t ignore it. Regardless of whether it is good or bad, it is still there for a reason. I have learned to notice those little things and recognize the impact that they can have. I want to be able to look back and say I took in every opportunity of growth that I possibly could and learned as much as I could.
It’s More Than Okay To Not Be Like Everyone Else.
I think sometimes people judge us for not having the same likes, dislikes, opinions, and backgrounds as them. People judge based on their own perspective and it does a lot of harm if you allow it to get to you. But I have learned these past few months that it is okay to not be like everyone else. My path may look different and I may have hit a few bumps along the way, but it’s my path. It’s my life. It’s not supposed to look like everyone else’s and that’s okay. I just have to follow what I believe is my plan and trust that there is a purpose for all of it. The only thing I can do is keep moving forward.
Life is unpredictable.
Okay, I already knew this before. But when you start following your own path and pursuing the things you want, you start to see more quickly that like is unpredictable. You can’t plan everything. So when people start asking why you are doing certain things or what you are going to do next, you don’t owe them an answer. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for anything you do. Just do the things that feel right in your heart and don’t give up no matter what. The only true failure is not getting back up when you fall down. Everything else is just a learning experience. Take something from everything you do and leave something when you can.
I Don’t Actually Dislike People.
There was always a part of me that was convinced that I just didn’t like people. However, I have learned that I don’t really dislike people. I just dislike the people who try to tell me what is best for me and give their unwarranted options. I dislike the people who are just nosy and want to be involved in every part of your life so they can talk about you later to someone else. For the most part I like people. But I like people who are kind and lift me up. I like being around people who are supportive and that I can support. Those kinds of people are the people we should all surround ourselves with.
I Was Really Lonely.
Even with all those people telling me what I should and should not do, I still managed to feel really lonely. And I guess part of that was not really knowing myself and living life on my own terms. So when I started trying to figure out what I really wanted and who I really am, I started to really see how lonely I was for all those years. I didn’t have anyone that I could turn to. I didn’t have anyone I could trust. I didn’t trust my own thoughts and opinions because I kept allowing other people to have them for me. And it was my fault because I let it happen and I became dependent on it. I stopped trying altogether.
Not Everyone Is Going To Agree With Your Decisions.
Just because other people don’t always agree with your decisions doesn’t mean they are wrong. It doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t do them. It just means that you are pursuing yourself and what you want. I have learned that I don’t need the approval of others to go after the life that I want. I don’t need validation. It’s okay to chase dreams. It’s okay to fail. It’s okay to not be perfect. Because the people who are judging you aren’t perfect either, they just can’t see it. So when it comes to doing the things that make you happy, you might as well go all in because your opinion is the only one that matters.
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