Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you had a great week and are ready for the weekend. Today I wanted to share some things with you that really affected my confidence and made me super down on myself. As I have done some reflecting over the past couple of weeks I realized that there were some behaviors and habits that were causing me to not have the confidence I should have in myself. So today I decided I would share some of these with you in case you are also struggling with confidence and need a little bit of a push in a good direction. Here are some behaviors and habits that killed my confidence.
Not knowing when to say no.
I have struggled with this for as long as I can remember. I don’t say no to people when I really need to or want to. I am a self-proclaimed people pleaser and it has caused to go down many dark holes of trying to do things for people just so they will be happy. However, in doing this I often lose time for myself and the ability to do things for myself. And it’s all simply because I don’t say no often enough and prioritize myself. Because of that my confidence has lacked because I’m not doing something as simple as saying what I really want to say.
Comparing myself to others.
I don’t really do this as often as I used to, but I still wanted to include it in this post because I have done it and it did really kill my confidence. I see other people doing what I want to be doing and wish that I could do it. So what I did instead of comparing myself to other people is I just started working on things. Because the only real way to move forward is to start working and keep growing. But comparing myself was a big problem I had years ago when I first started and it took a while to overcome the damage that was done.
Focusing on the negative.
I used to really struggle with seeing the negative of every situation first and allowing myself to focus on that. I still struggle with this sometimes. But I have learned that in most situations there is always some positive and growth that can come from the situation. So I really try to focus on the positive things that can come from everything that happens. I know it’s easier said than done, but it really does help me. It doesn’t make me feel less confident in myself like the negative does.
Being a perfectionist.
Guys let me tell you something. Nothing in the world has killed my confidence quite like being a perfectionist has. It’s something that I still struggle with to this day and it’s really hard to overcome sometimes. I am constantly waiting to do things for the perfect time, when I have all the answers, and when I know I am ready. But the truth is, there is no such thing as a perfect time and I will never have all the answers. But the good news is, no one does. And the people telling me that I shouldn’t do things are the people who never do anything anyone.
Seeing all failure as a bad thing.
This is something I have been talking about here for a long time. Failure is not always a negative. There is a lot of growth, learning, and development that comes when you fail. Failing means you tried something and it didn’t work out. It is not a reflection of me or the person that I am. It doesn’t mean that I am any less of a person or that I am not capable of anything. It just means that I am trying and putting in effort. Failure is a sign that you are doing things and that is never a bad thing.
Trying to do everything.
I have learned when you try to do everything and be everything for everyone that you stretch yourself too thin. It takes over your mind and body and everything consumes you. Similarly to not being able to say no, it really kills my confidence because I can’t see that I am accomplishing anything. I can feel myself failing at more and more because I can’t do everything. But that’s not a reflection of me. It’s a reflection of me trying to do too much and accomplish all the things.
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