Hey guys! Welcome back. School is right around the corner and regardless of what that looks like for you, I hope it goes well for you. I know that college will be starting very soon, and also, it was five years ago this month when I started college. In honor of both of those and to hopefully help you in some way, I thought I would share the seven things I would tell myself if I could go back in time and talk to me when I was starting college. I will say that I am a completely different person now because of the past five years, so I definitely have some things I would say. So if you are starting college or you know someone who is, feel free to pass this along. Hopefully it helps you and gives you something to use going in.
1: College is a time to try new things.
The next four years or so are going to be full of fun and exciting opportunities. It’s going to be a time where you get to try new things, meet new people, and figure out exactly who you are and what your place in the world is. And while you don’t have to do and try everything (especially the things you aren’t comfortable with), college is a time to try new things. So don’t be afraid to branch out, make new friends, and try new things. No one is going to judge you, and if they do, well their opinion really doesn’t matter. Go do it anyway.
2: Your mental health is important.
When I first started college I didn’t really know that much about mental health. It was actually a professor my Freshman Year that talked to me about mental health and encouraged me to try therapy. But I would definitely go back and talk to my former self about mental health and how important it is not only to your relationship with yourself, but also your relationship with other people. It’s also important for your physical health and your well-being overall. And most importantly, your mental health is more important than your GPA, so get some sleep.
3: Being homesick is normal.
When I first left for college I was super excited and I thought based on things that had happened and all the hurt I had gone through that I would never feel homesick. Well, that wasn’t true. I did feel homesick and I quickly learned that it’s completely normal. I learned that it wasn’t necessarily the things that had happened that I missed, but just the familiarity of it. I had grown comfortable, even in the worst of times. College was new and though I was safe, I was unsure. So I did become homesick.
4: You don’t have to do something just because everyone else is.
I don’t think I ever really did this, but I definitely felt the pressure at times. And I’m not just talking about drinking and things like that because I never really had friends that did that. But I mean just going out every Friday night, participating in certain activities, and things of that nature. It’s sometimes easy in college to just follow the crowd, but you don’t have to go to the Football game just because everyone else does. Although, I would recommend going at least once because they are actually really fun!
5: You will make friends and you will lose friends.
I was pleasantly surprised at how easily I made friends at both colleges. I wasn’t even really trying. When I first started college I wasn’t really looking to make friends or be super social. But God had other plans and He knew I wouldn’t want to be alone. So I had people I naturally gravitated towards and we became friends. I also learned that it’s natural and okay to lose friends and grow apart. It’s nothing personal and it simply happens. It doesn’t mean that anyone did anything wrong.
6: Professors aren’t scary. They’re actually really helpful.
I don’t know if I would have made it through college as well as I did if it hadn’t been for some incredible professors that I had. In fact, I can honestly say I never had a professor that I didn’t really like. But I know that going into it professors seemed really scary and unapproachable. But if I could go back in time and talk to my 18-year-old self I would let her know that they aren’t that scary and it’s really important to build good relationships with your professors because they are there to help you.
7: Do the things that scare you.
I remember going into college being scared of so many things. And a lot of those things I actually did. I was terrified to apply to be a Resident Assistant, but I did it anyway and it changed my life. I was afraid to change my major, but when I did I felt like I was finally living the way I wanted. I was afraid of putting myself out there, but I did and made some amazing friends and wonderful connections. So it really just goes to show that doing the things that scare you are sometimes worth it in the end.
Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what you would tell yourself when you were starting college or if you will be starting college this Fall! Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!
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