Hey guys! Welcome back to another installment of my blog series “Life Through My Eyes”. You guys seem to be really enjoying this and that really makes me happy. Anything I can take from my life to make yours better is always a plus. So today I wanted to talk about something some things I wish I had started earlier in life. Obviously because of certain circumstances and people in my life, these things have taken time and some are still a work in progress. But they are things I wish I had started sooner and I encourage you to start as soon as possible if you have not already because I believe these things can help carry us far in life.
I wish I had stopped worrying so much.
I am a chronic over thinker. It causes so much anxiety and worry for no reason. Most of the time the things I am worrying about aren’t things that will happen, but scenarios I just create in my head. And even though I am working on it and getting better, I still find myself worrying about nothing at all for absolutely no reason. And I really wished I had started working on this a lot sooner. I think there are so many better things to focus on than worrying about things that may or may not ever come. It’s important to not give so much life and energy to things that aren’t really that important in life and focus on what we can control.
Believing in myself.
My life truly changed when I started believing in myself. And it wasn’t some big moment or a decision that I made consciously. It happened over the course of time, but one day I started to see a change in myself. The reason for that change was that I was believing in myself. I stopped worrying so much about what other people thought and caring about what they would say and I just started believing that I knew in my heart what I was supposed to be doing. It really did change so many things for me. And now I am actively working on pursuing my dreams and working towards my goals. I’m really living out my best life.
I still don’t do this nearly as often as I should, but I definitely do this more that I used to. But to be honest I really wish I had started earlier. Not because I want to look different, but because I see the difference in the way I feel physically, mentally, and emotionally. It has helped so much in so many ways that I really think I could feel a lot better about myself and my life if I had started working out earlier than I did. I feel a lot calmer which may have contributed to helping me not worry so much. I also feel a lot more confident which is never a bad thing. Overall, I just think it’s one of the best things I have ever done for myself.
I am a people pleaser by nature. I think I always have been. So it was never lost on me the struggles and situations that come from that. It took me a really long time to figure out that I was causing myself a lot of problems by trying to please everyone else and trying to do what everyone else needed and wanted me to do. It was definitely something I had to work on over time because it’s not something you come out of over night. But I have learned that it’s important to have the time and the energy to invest in the right things, so that sometimes means I have to say “no” to other people. It’s not always easy, but it’s the best thing for me.
Stop trying to be perfect.
I got really lost there for a while. I spent so much time trying to be perfect and never mess up. I really gave it all my time, energy, and focus. I thought if I really tried maybe I would be good enough for all the people who deemed me as not good enough. It was something I really struggled with for a long time. I was just trying to prove that I had value, but the truth is, I shouldn’t have to try. For the right people and the people who are important and really matter I am good enough as I am. I don’t have to be perfect. I am allowed to fall short and make mistakes. I just wish I could have understood that a long time ago.
Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what you wish you had started sooner. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time! Also make sure you go check out the podcast. I will leave it below. Search for it wherever you listen to your podcasts. I have a lot of really great things coming, so make sure you also go follow us on Instagram! I look forward to sharing more with you in the future. I will be back tomorrow with the sixth installment where I talk about being impulsively creative, what that means, and how it has helped me and hurt me!
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