Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a great week so far. Today I am here to open up about something that I haven’t talked about a ton here, and that is my childhood. Growing up things weren’t always the greatest and I had a lot of struggles that no normal child should ever have to experience. But through all of those struggles and traumatic experiences I became stronger and found value in myself and the things I am doing in life. So today I wanted to share some lessons that I took from my childhood that I consider to be extremely valuable.
I am not responsible for anyone else.
I spent much of my childhood and a large part of my adult life so far doing what made other people happy. I have been a people pleaser all my life, so it’s no surprise that I am hard on myself for the mistakes that other people make. But I am learning that I have no control over what other people do or how they respond in various situations. All I can do is do my best and keep moving forward. I can only be enough for and that’s really all that matters.
No one can make me feel bad about myself.
This is something very real that happens quite often. Sometimes we let the words and opinions of other people take away from what we really think and feel. But all that does is make us feel worse and ruin our confidence and self-esteem. One really important lesson that I have learned is that no one can make you feel bad about yourself if you don’t want to or you don’t let them. It is ultimately up you what voices you choose to listen to and where you focus your time and energy.
Other people’s words and actions are a reflection of them, not of you.
Just because someone says something mean or off putting to you, always remember that it’s not always about you. That doesn’t give anyone the right to say whatever they want to you, but it does serve as a reminder that the things other people are doing and saying isn’t always meant to hurt you. It probably does because you are human, but you can just sit there and let it bring you down so much. Keep going and ignore the people who use you as a way to get out frustrations.
My life now doesn’t have to be the same as my childhood.
I have never really been good at relationships. I have a lot of trust issues, mental illness, and overall just a really hard time with relationships. I have struggled with them for a very long time. But over the past several months or so I have been learning that just because my childhood and the things I experienced then were a certain way does not mean that my life now is destined to end up that way. I have way more control over things that happen now than I ever have before.
I am capable of loving myself.
Loving myself is not something that has come naturally to me in the past. I have definitely struggled with self-image and seeing my worth. However, it is something that I have been tremendously working on for the past year or so and it has really helped me overcome many of the obstacles standing in my way. I am learning that I can love myself, I just have to give myself the opportunity to really commit and understand that I am capable and I do know what I’m doing.
Not everyone has your best interest at heart, even if they are related to you. There are many people who just lie because they can. They lie because they want to confuse you, manipulate you, or hurt you in some way. It’s scary, but it’s the world we live in. Unfortunately it’s not something we can really do anything, so all we can do is learn to recognize the signs in other people because there will always be someone not providing the whole truth.
Mistakes are not bad.
I was raised thinking I had to be perfect all the time. Turns out, that’s not actually true. We don’t have to be perfect all the time. We are allowed to mess up. We are allowed to fall short. We are allowed to make mistakes. In fact, it’s necessary to make mistakes because that’s what helps you learn and grow. Not every mistake you make is bad because each one provides you with a learning experience and an opportunity to live a better life because of it.
Those are the valuable life lessons that I learned from my childhood! Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what your childhood was like regardless of what it looked like. I would love to hear from you guys and see what you have to say about lessons you learned as a child or as an adult because of what you went through as a child. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!
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