Hey guys! Welcome back. 2020 is coming to a fast close and with that comes a ton of reflecting. I shared a look back at my 2020 a few days ago and today I wanted to visit that again and give you a part two of sorts. I wanted to share a few lessons and things I have taken away from the craziness that was this past year. This was a major year of growth and progress for me so I am excited to share all the things I learned.
1. I don’t hate change.
Change is never easy and it usually comes when we least expect it. However, this year has been full of change for me in both positive and negative ways. This year taught me that at the end of the day, life is unpredictable and we can’t always control everything that goes on in our lives. All we can do is push through and try to make it to the other side. Change is not always easy, but I have learned that it’s usually worth it in the end.
2. Opening up is hard, but it’s worth it.
I have a really difficult time opening up to people mostly because it’s not something I grew up doing. I am a pretty private people because people are very critical at times and I just think some things are better off staying private. But I have learned that with the right people, opening up and sharing what I am going through is a really good thing. I have learned that there are people in this world that I can trust and that are supportive.
3. I sometimes make things harder than they need to be.
Okay, so I do this more than just sometimes. It’s just the way my brain works. I overthink everything and I’m usually thinking of everything that could go wrong before I think of anything that could go right. I have a strong tendency to make things a lot more difficult than they actually are and most of the time I just need to do the things that I am overthinking or struggling with. It really is just a mental battle that I am always having with myself.
4. I love learning about others.
I am not one for small talk and I never have been. I would much rather get to know someone on a deep, personal level than just what their favorite color is. And it’s not me being nosy, I just really enjoy getting to know about other people. Maybe it’s the historian in me, but I think it’s fascinating to learn about others and get to know who they are, who they have been, and who they want to be. It’s just really enjoyable for me.
5. God’s love is never-ending.
I knew this before, but this year especially I was really reminded of this. God showed Himself to me more times this year than I can count and I have never been more grateful. He pulled me out of so many situations and got me to a much happier state. I was reminded of just how much God is capable of this year and I really couldn’t have done anything that I have managed to do this year without Him. So this was a big one.
6. I have to write things down to remember them.
I have a pretty good memory about most things, but I have found writing things down is really helpful. By writing them down in a place that I can return to later, I don’t have to worry about trying to remember them. It just helps me keep my mind as clear and open as possible which is never a bad thing. I really challenged myself to write more things down this year and I am so glad I did because it has helped me so much more than I thought it would.
7. Self care is important, but it can be simple.
This year I really tried to prioritize self care and my mental well-being. But I also learned that self care, while it is important, doesn’t have to be super complex. Self care can be simple. Sometimes it’s the little things that make the most difference and have the biggest impact. I tried to get more creative with the simple things this year and really just tried to make self care my own. It’s been fun and also really beneficial for me.
8. I love supportive and optimistic people.
I used to think that I wasn’t a people person at all and I really just wanted to be left alone most of the time. But this year I have learned that I actually do like being around people, but I like optimistic and supportive people. I like being around people who lift me up and see the value in what I do and what I have to offer. I like being around people who make me feel wanted and secure. It’s not that I don’t like people, it’s that I really need positive people in my life.
9. I still struggle with being a people pleaser.
Even though this year has been full of growth and personal triumph, I still have things that I struggle with and people pleasing is one of them. I have struggled with this pretty much my whole life and it does cause me to have extreme anxiety and feel the need to be perfect all the time. I feel the need to prove my worth and my value and I’m always afraid to mess up because if I do it could cause me lose people that really matter to me.
10. I need to be my own cheerleader.
As I mentioned, I really struggle with trying to make other people happy and because of this I don’t always make decisions based on what I want or need. And this has caused to walk down some rocky paths. And even though I don’t really regret anything I have learned that if I really want to accomplish anything I need to start doing things on my own terms. I can’t keep waiting for validation from everyone else because that’s never going to come.
11. “Love” isn’t enough.
Love isn’t always enough to make a relationship work or to stay where you are unhappy. I really learned that in 2020. Love isn’t enough to make you stay somewhere you don’t deserve to be and it’s not enough to make you stay with someone you don’t deserve to be with. It takes more that love to make most things work and 2020 taught me that sometimes no matter how much love there is, sometimes we deserve more.
12. I am not defined by only one thing.
I am not defined by my job, my personality, my religion, my political beliefs, the way I look, or how much money I have. I am not defined only by one things. There are many various factors that make me who I am and all of those are exactly what they are supposed to. Sometimes people only see one thing and they make assumptions, but here is your reminder that you are much more than just one thing. Remind yourself and others of that.
13. It’s okay to not have everything figured out.
Life is not a race and there is no age where you are supposed to magically have everything figured out. 2020 has taught me many things and shown me many times that life will throw you curve balls and shift you in unexpected ways. It’s not always easy or the most fun, but it’s okay. I have learned that I don’t have to be perfect and I don’t have to have all the answers. I just have to be me and that is more that enough. It will all be okay.
14. It’s okay to rest.
I am pretty much always working on something. Whether it’s my actual job, the blog, social media, or some other project, I am usually always doing something. So much so that the only time I really rest is when I am sleeping. It can be pretty exhausting if I’m being honest. But 2020 has taught me not only the importance of rest, but also the many benefits that it brings. So I have learned to prioritize rest and relax.
15. It’s okay to ask for help.
I try to avoid asking for help as much as possible because it’s always been something that has been really difficult for me. I always feel like a burden for asking too much of people. But this year taught me that it’s okay and also necessary to ask for help. I would not have been able to get this far without the help of other people and even though it is still a struggle, I have learned that it’s okay to ask for help when needed.
16. I can’t control the actions of others, only my reaction.
There have been many things that have happened this year that have been beyond my control. The actions of other people have changed my life for better or worse. And one of the biggest things I have taken away from all of it is that I cannot control the actions of other people. I can’t change who they are or the things they do or say. I can only control how I react and how much information I give them. The less I give them, the less they have to use.
17. There are people that care about me.
I haven’t always felt a sense of belonging or truly, unconditionally loved. But 2020 has showed me that there are good people and there are people that care about me. I went from people asking me how I plan to accomplish any of the things I want to do to people asking how they can help me get there. It really has made a world of difference and has changed my perspective on a lot of things. At the end of the day, I do have people and that’s all that matters.
18. You get out of life what you put into it.
Sometimes we try things and we succeed. Sometimes we try things and we fail. But I have learned that in life you get out of it what you put into it. And if you don’t try something, you will never know and you will never have whatever it is. I didn’t get this apartment by waiting for it to come to me. I didn’t get my job by waiting for it to come to me. I took a risk on both and I ended up exactly where I needed to be. It wasn’t easy, but I made it.
19. I still have a long way to go.
I accomplished a great deal in 2020. From getting my first apartment to getting a new job to building amazing relationships, I have so much to be grateful for and to be proud of. This year was hard, but it was so worth it. With that being said, I still have a long way to go and a lot of learning to do before I get where I want to be. But I didn’t expect to accomplish everything in one year. I am happy with the way this year is turning out.
20. I am capable.
A running theme in this long list of 20 things I have learned in 2020 is that I am capable and I really wanted to highlight that as the last lesson I learned this year. This year was one filled with trials and triumphs, but I like to think that ultimately I came out on top. I learned that regardless of what other people think and try to make me believe, that I am capable and I can do anything I set my mind to. And that is quite frankly my biggest takeaway from this past year.
So those are the biggest lessons that I am taking away from this roller coaster of a year. It’s definitely a year that I will remember for the rest of my life. So many big things happened. Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like if you did. Let us know in the comments what lessons you learned this year. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!
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