Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a really good week so far. Today’s Blogmas post is going to be a little different because to be completely honest there is something that is sitting very heavy on my mind and on my heart. I usually try not to dive too deep into controversial topics, not because I don’t have an opinion or don’t care, but because I don’t want to seem like I pushing my beliefs on to anyone. But today I have something to say and because this is my platform and everyone likes to harp on the fact that they have the ability to say anything they want, well I get to as well.
My heart is very sad and even though I know this is the right thing to do, a part of me is a little worried. Not because I’m afraid of what anyone will think or how anyone will react, but because as a heterosexual woman, I feel like I am crossing a boundary that may not be mine to cross. But then again, this is something I feel like I need to put out there. As many of you know I do post religious posts here on the blog. There have been many and there will be many more. And I stand by that content. However, you may have also seen that there has been content on the LGBTQ+ community. I also stand by that content and it’s also not going anywhere.
But I feel the need to write this and share it with you because today I saw something that angered me to my very core. I as on TikTok this evening, you know as you do, and I came across a video of this guy that I have been following for months. In the video he shared that he had been gone for a few days and he was still trying to process everything that had happened. Realizing I had missed something I went to his page and I found the video from a few days prior to see what had happened because I was worried.
In the video he shared that people had told him not to post that particular video and that if he did he would lose everyone. He then shared that he is bisexual. It was emotional enough to watch as this man who is usually super happy and funny felt that he was letting everyone down by sharing this very big part of his life. And I am not naive. I know this is something that many, many people struggle with, even people I know personally. I hold the secret for many people as they are not ready to come out to their own families, let alone the world.
And the thing is, I have never really understood why it matters if someone is gay, bisexual, transgender, or anything else. In the same way that I have never really understood why it matters what someone’s race is or where they come from. I don’t understand how someone can be so affected by who someone else is attracted to because at the end of the day, it doesn’t affect you. It doesn’t have anything to do with you. If you are uncomfortable by how someone else is living their lives then that’s on you. They aren’t hurting you. They aren’t taking anything from you.
I don’t think anyone should have to live in fear because of who they are. I don’t think anyone should have to fear that they can’t be themselves around people who are supposed to love them. The hardest part of this video was when he said, “My family is going to hate me in the morning”. That’s just not the way it’s supposed to be, yet I know this is the way so many people feel. So many people carry the burden of not truly being themselves because they feel ashamed or embarrassed. but it’s not you who should be ashamed. You are who you are and it’s not anyone else’s business.
I know this doesn’t change anything and that people are still going to struggle with this. And really I am sharing this so you know that you do have a safe place. It’s not something I personally struggle with, but it’s something that feel very deeply in my core that shouldn’t still be an issue. People shouldn’t have to worry about whether people in their family or their friends are still going to love them and accept them if they aren’t straight. People should have to live in fear about whether they can be honest with themselves and others. They shouldn’t have to hide themselves and be uncomfortable just so they don’t make you uncomfortable because it’s not your life to live.
I just think we need to be better. Luckily, this young man received a lot of support and didn’t lose everyone, but I hate that he ever thought he would. I hate that anyone ever told him he would. And I hate that he felt like his family would hate him. I don’t think the love and respect you have someone should be based on sexual orientation, race, or anything other than how you treat other people and the love and kindness you give. And I don’t think that is a difficult thing to do. I also think people should be careful about what they say about anyone because someone you love could be dealing with the very thing that you are ridiculing someone else for.
Anyway, I will stop rambling now. I just really needed to say what I needed to say. And I hope maybe this reaches just one person who needed to know they aren’t alone. Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope you took something away from this. I mean you guys did say you wanted to know more about me, so here you go. Let me know if there is anything else you want my opinion on. But just know if i write about it, I’m not going to hold back. I’m going to let you know my real thoughts and how I really feel.
Go follow @codyIspradling on TikTok as well. Go show him some love and support as he starts this new chapter in his journey. And be good to one another. The world needs it right now.