Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a great week. With the new year I think it’s really time we all start to prioritize self love and being kind to ourselves. So today I wanted to share my favorite ways to practice self love and what I am focusing on in this new year in terms of being kind to myself. I have struggled with this pretty much my entire life, but over these past few months I have been working on being better at it. And I wanted to share my ideas with you in case you are looking for some motivation on how to better love yourself.
1. Tell yourself something positive everyday.
It’s always best to start your day on a positive note and one of my favorite ways to do that is to tell myself something positive. It’s a great way to remind yourself of things you like and appreciate about yourself. It also helps you start your day on a better note and feel confident moving into the day. It’s a little strange the first few days that you do it, but once you get used it it becomes normal and you can’t start your day without it.
2. Move your body everyday.
That is not to say that you have to do a whole workout every single day, but some sort of movement is really good for your physical and mental health. It helps you stay energized and focused. Whether it’s a ten minute workout during your lunch break, a walk outside in the morning, or a full workout move your body in some way every day. You will start to notice a big difference in how you feel and your overall mood.
3. Silence your inner critic.
We are our own biggest critic sometimes and we tend to be harder on ourselves than we need to be. And just like you can’t believe everything you hear, you also can’t believe everything you think. So when you find yourself being over critical and getting down on yourself for making mistakes or failing, just remember that it’s normal and no one is perfect. Let go of the idea that you aren’t allowed to mess up.
4. Surround yourself with the right people.
The people you spend time with and allow in your life play a huge role in how you see yourself and how you feel. So it’s important to surround yourself with people who love you and encourage you. Spend time with people who point out the best in you, not the worst in you. It’s really important to make sure you are building positive and uplifting relationships in your life because it can really make or break you. So find the right people.
5. End all toxic relationships.
Seriously, all of them. I know it’s easier said than done, but trust me. It’s really important to end all toxic relationships or at the very least keep them at an arms length. Don’t allow negative people to influence your decisions or make you feel badly. Don’t give people the authority in your life to tear you down every chance you get. End the relationships if you can, but if you can’t make sure you have more positive relationships than negative relationships in your life.
6. Stop comparisons.
It has been said that comparison is the thief of all joy and I believe that is true. When we spend our time focusing on what other people have, what they are doing, or where they are we can lose sight of everything that we have. So it’s really important for self love that you stop focusing so much on what other people have and more on what you have. And if you want something, go after it instead of worrying about other people.
7. Celebrate big and small wins.
All accomplishments are things to be proud of, regardless of how big or small they may seem. So if you have something that you feel like is a win you should celebrate it. It helps you see how far you have come and what you have done that is good instead of constantly focusing on what is not going well. Celebrate yourself, the person that you are, and all of the amazing things that you accomplish everyday.
8. Be patient and persistent.
Most goals won’t come to us overnight. Most dreams don’t just appear in front of us. Everything takes time and effort. So it’s really important to be patient and make sure that you aren’t giving up too soon. Patience will keep you calm and help you move forward through the process. However, you still have to be persistent and consistent in your efforts to keep working hard so you can get things that you want.
9. Find something to be grateful for everyday.
Gratitude will change your life. It will help you feel more positive. It will remind you of everything you have. So find something every day that you are grateful for. Even if it’s just one thing. I challenge you to make a list every morning of the things you are grateful for and I promise you will start your days feeling a lot differently. You will be much more positive about moving forward because you will be reminded of everything you already have.
10. Learn to say no.
It’s not always easy, especially for me, because I really don’t like disappointing people. But I have learned that it’s really important to say no sometimes because I can’t always do everything. I can’t always keep up at the same pace. I know it’s hard, but I also know that it is one of the most valuable skills to have. And yes, I think saying no is a skill because I still struggle with it and I’m still learning it myself.
11. Forgive yourself.
Like I said before, you aren’t perfect. I’m not perfect. We all make mistakes sometimes and do things looking back we aren’t exactly proud of. But as much as we know we aren’t perfect, we have to learn to move on. We can’t dwell in the things we once did. We can’t sit around feeling bad because we did something wrong. You have to forgive yourself and learn from what happened. Learn the lesson and let go.
12. Give up the need for approval from others.
Contrary to popular belief, your life is your own. You don’t owe anything to anyone else. You don’t need the approval from other people to do what you want, be what you want, or go where you want. Your life is your own to live and no one else has to get up every morning and live with the choices, so you have to make them for yourself. You have to be okay with not always pleasing everyone else because you have to live with your own decisions.
13. Be realistic.
I’m a dreamer. I always have been. I’m also a planner. I also work really hard. But one thing I have struggled with in the past is being realistic. I sometimes bite off more than I can chew. I sometimes spend too much time planning and not enough time actually moving forward. So I have learned that one thing I really need to do for myself is learn to be realistic and make sure I am doing right by myself.
Thank you so much for stopping by! I hope this helps you in some way. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what your favorite form of self love is. Enjoy your own company, take care of yourself, and be gentle with yourself. I promise it helps more than you know. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!