Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a great week so far. As many of you may know I started watching “This Is Us” back towards the end of November. I am currently on season four and almost caught up. I absolutely love the show and I think there are so many things that can learned from the show. It’s full of so many very real issues that people struggle with from death to anxiety to complicated relationships. So today I wanted to share some of the lessons that I have picked up on throughout my time watching the show. If you have not seen it or aren’t caught up there may be some spoilers, so this is your warning if you don’t want to see them.
When you love someone you can get through anything.
This show is full of relationships from family to friends to significant others. It doesn’t shy away from portraying the various issues that can come with relationships. Whether it’s Rebecca helping Jack as he struggles with alcoholism or Kate being there for Toby as he struggles with depression, there are so many very real situations that the show portrays and how love can help you conquer just about anything. If you really love someone, you can stand by them no matter what.
Anxiety affects more people than you know.
Randall is one person who seemingly has it all together. He has a great family, a nice house, and a great career. But he has dealt with his fair share of demons. From growing up in a white family and feeling out of place to dealing with his biological father dying after reconnecting with him, Randall struggled a great deal. However, if we only look at what we can see from the outside, it is easy to assume that he doesn’t have anything to be anxious about. But one thing this show is really good at is showing how anyone can battle with mental issues no matter how put together they seem.
Your wounds won’t heal automatically.
Healing takes time and no one heals in the same way or at the same speed as someone else. Kate, Kevin, and Randall all lost their dad at the same time and they all dealt with it differently. Rebecca lost her husband and Beth’s mother lost her husband, but they both handled it very differently and moved on at different times. Kate and Toby both dealt with their miscarriage differently. Everyone heals differently and that’s okay.
There are people out there that won’t see you for your flaws.
I think a lot of times we just assume that what people are going to notice about us first is our flaws and that’s all they are going to see. But one really positive thing that this show teaches us is that there is so much more to us than our flaws. Despite Jack’s addiction and turbulent past, he was a great husband and a great father. Despite Kate’s weight being a barrier for most of her life she found someone who loved her and got married and started a family. You are so much more than your perceived flaws and there are people out there who are going to be able to recognize that.
No matter who you are, you are allowed to be vulnerable.
It doesn’t matter how tough you think you are, how put together your life looks to the outside world, or anything that you may have gone through, you are allowed to be vulnerable. You are allowed to express yourself in every way. You are allowed to be open, especially to the most important people in your life. It’s so important to be able to let other people into who you are and what you are going through because you don’t have to be unless you really want to be.
When you want something you should go after it.
Kevin wanted to be an actor, and he went and did it. It wasn’t always easy, but he managed to do it and be successful. Randall wanted to be city councilman and he went after it even though the odds were stacked against him all the way up until he was elected. Kate wanted to have kids and she pursued it even after her miscarriage. There are so many examples in this show about why you should be who you want to be and go get the things you really want because if you aren’t willing to at least try, you will never have what is meant to be yours. So you have to go after it.
Seeking help doesn’t make you weak.
Sometimes we need help whether it’s from a friend, a family member, or a trained professional. Whether it’s support groups, rehab, or therapy there is no shame in asking for help. It doesn’t make you weak or crazy. It means that you recognize that you can’t go through something alone and get through it by yourself and you shouldn’t have to. Asking for help shows that you know you want to get better and make it to the other side.
You don’t have to end up like your parents.
Both Jack and Rebecca came from families that were not at all like the typical Pearson clan we are used to. They were different backgrounds, but in some ways very similar. They both decided to pave their own paths and they ended up finding each other along the way. It’s a perfect example of your past does not define you and you have the ability to make your own choices and do things your own way. You have the opportunity to be different.
No one is perfect.
It’s cliche, but it’s cliche for a reason. This show does an amazing job at highlighting and illustrating the fact that no one is perfect. No one has it all together all the time. Every single character on the show is dealing with something or has some battle that they are facing. Even Tess, Beth and Randall’s daughter has things she is going through and the way they tell her story is nothing short of amazing. This show has the ability to bring you to tears and make you laugh as you watch the journey of how the characters deal with the hands they are dealt.
There is good in everything.
Even though no one is perfect and no one has it all together all the time, this show also teaches us that there is good in everything. It shows that no matter how hard something seems or how you feel on the inside, there is always something to be grateful for. There is always a silver lining and something to be learned when you make it through. It’s not always going to be easy, but it will always be worth it.
Don’t be afraid to change directions.
Kevin changed directions when he quit his TV show and moved to New York. Randall changed directions when he ran for city council. Beth changed directions when she decided she wanted to teach dance. There are so many different examples throughout the show about why you shouldn’t be afraid to change directions. It doesn’t always work out the way you want it to, like when Randall reconnected with his biological father or when Deja went back to live with her mom, but it’s always worth it because otherwise you will be left wondering what could have been.
Those are the big life lessons that I have taken away from “This Is Us” so far. I’m sure as I continue to watch there will be even more, so maybe I will do another post a little later on. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. If you have any lessons that you have picked up on the show, let us know your favorites in the comments. I would love to know. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you in the next one!