Hey guys! Welcome back. Making friends as an adult can be tricky and even if you have friends, navigating those friendships can be tricky at times. And I know from experience that holding on to the friendships you had in college once you graduate can be tough at times, especially if you now live in a different city. But I also know from experience that it is possible to stay close to your friends after college if you are willing to put in the time and effort. So today I wanted to share my tips on how you can keep your friends after college if you are struggling.
Have a fun ritual.
Whether it’s girl’s night once a month, a holiday dedicated just for friends, or a fun vacation have something that’s just for you and your friends. It will help keep you close, give you something to do together, and keep you in close contact when you aren’t doing the ritual. It’s a great way to make sure you always have something to look forward to together no matter how busy your lives are otherwise.
If you feel like things are drifting, you find that you don’t have the time to hang out with you friend, or you are worried about something, be honest. Be honest with yourself about how you are feeling and what is going on. Open up to your friends and let them know if you are struggling or you feel like the relationship needs work. Be honest about how you are feeling and find ways to overcome the challenges and changes you face as you grow both together and individually.
If you live in different cities, travel to see one another. Plan times where you can go see them and when they can come see you. Make arrangements for weekends, holidays, and just random get togethers. Also, travel outside of the city, state, and country you live in with your friends. Nothing says bonding more like sharing a hotel room in a country you have never been in before.
Just as you did when you saw them everyday, love your friends. Love them for who they are now and who they are becoming as time goes on. No relationship is perfect and friendships may face many challenges, but love conquers all. So when you feel that your friendship has hit a rough patch or you are struggling with being apart and not having as much time, love them all the more and remind them of that.
As you get older and you start to form more friendships, start in your career, and maybe start a family you will find that the time you have to spend with your college friends gets smaller and smaller. And just as you have your own life going on, they will also have their own things going on. So in this situation it is important to be patient and understanding as you grow and continue to be there for one another as often as you can.
Navigating friendships in the post grad universe can be a challenge, but it doesn’t have to be impossible. Just keep your wits, have some patience, and love your friends no matter what. I promise you can and will get through it. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments if you have any tips for keeping friendships after college or even just as an adult in general. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!