If you are reading this it’s probably because you feel like a perfectionist, or at least that you have perfectionist tendencies. And if that is true, I would first like to say that you are not alone. I catch myself refolding my towels, rewriting entire paragraphs, and triple checking pretty much everything I do. It is both a positive and a negative in many ways, so trust me, I know the struggle. I often find myself waiting for the “right time” to start something, knowing very well that the only “right time” is right now. I find myself struggling to continue on with something if I feel like I have messed up because I don’t see the point in continuing on with it anymore.
And honestly that perfectionism is really rooted in me trying to do my best. It is rooted in my habits and behaviors because I want to be the best version of myself possible and that leads to me feeling like I need to be perfect. And I’m sure many of you also feel the same way. You aren’t a perfectionist because you think you are perfect. You are a perfectionist because you want to be the best version of yourself that you can be. But I also think that for so many of us another root cause of perfectionism is fear. Fear of shame, judgment, or rejection. And I actually believe they go hand in hand. We want to be the best we can be because we don’t want to feel those things and I think for the most part that’s okay.
But I also know that being a perfectionist makes life really hard. It can get pretty overwhelming, even on the good days, because we are always on the go. And it’s really easy to face burn out when we are trying to so hard to make everything perfect. So when I find myself thinking something has to be perfect, I try to remind myself that done is always better than perfect because doing something is better than doing nothing at all. Showing up in an imperfect way will always be more impactful than not showing up because you are afraid of not being perfect.
Also, failure will teach you more than success ever will. If you aren’t failing, you aren’t living. I’m not saying you have to fail at everything because that’s no way to live. But it’s okay to try things even if you aren’t sure that it will work out in your favori. You just have to trust that what is meant to be will be and you will live beyond whatever happens. So live your life unapologetically and you find yourself in a situation where you aren’t necessarily perfect, keep seeing it through until you get the outcome you want and deserve. Hard work pays off.
And always remember to show yourself some grace. Be kind to yourself and remember to encourage yourself the way you would encourage your best friend. Understand that you will mess up and you will make mistakes, but it’s all a part of life. You have so much going for you no matter what. You should look back and be proud of how far you have come and you should look forward with hopes of achieving the greatness you want in whatever way that looks like to you. You are capable of great things and you always try to be perfect it will just be that much harder and take that much longer. It’s okay to be your best, as long as you know that your flaws and mistakes are a part of what make you you and that already makes you your best.
So be kind to yourself, lift yourself up, and have fun. Do the things that make you happy, even if you aren’t sure you will be perfect at them. Life is short and we have to do what we can to really live as many moments as we can and have the best time. Keep learning and keep growing. Find great company and spend time with the people that matter most to you. Share your joy and happiness with others. And always remember that you are never alone and if you feel alone, reach out. There will always be someone there to catch you!