Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a fantastic start to your week. I started this week off with a little bit of reflection. As I begin to transition into a new season of life I wanted to do a little reflecting on the past season to see what I could change and how I could be better moving forward. And while the last season didn’t last as long as other seasons have, I still found that quite a bit had changed. I have grown so much in such a short amount of time and as I look forward to starting a new season, I feel the need to share some of the things that I have learned or noticed from the last one. So today I thought I would share some of the things I have found myself apologizing for in the past that I think are kind of bizarre for me to apologize for and I thought maybe there was someone who needed to hear them as well. So here are ten things we really shouldn’t need to apologize for.
1. Putting yourself first.
This is a big one. It’s not lost on me that in the past I have absolutely apologized to anyone that I may have disappointed or inconvenienced when it came time to put myself first. But more importantly I noticed that I wasn’t really putting myself first a lot. There are plenty of times where I put my own wants and needs aside for the sake of others and I am more than happy to do so. However, there are time when I absolutely need to do what is best for me and sometimes that means disappointing someone else or not being able to be there for them as you normally would. But I think sometimes it’s necessary to take care of yourself so you can be more active in helping others.
2. Not always being available.
Life gets busy at times. We all have our own things going on. We can’t always be 100% available for every single person. This kind of ties in with the previous point, but I think it’s really important for us to remember that we aren’t always going to have time for everyone and everything. There are times when we really can only focus on one thing at a time and that’s not something we should have to apologize for because it’s something literally everyone deals with. It shouldn’t be an issue of needing to apologize for simply not having the time or the energy to be available at all times.
3. Letting go of what no longer serves you.
As humans, we grow and change with time and as we go through various things that life has to offer. Through those growth periods, no matter how good or bad they may be, we find that things we used to hold on to or value no longer serve us. That could be a job, a relationship, a habit, or anything really. Sometimes we find when we get to the other side of that growth period that what we have gone through has helped us see what we no longer need. So we start letting go of those things. I truly believe that is not something to apologize for. It should be celebrated. Growth is important and it’s something we should all welcome into our lives and make the necessary changes as we grow and get better.
4. Needing time for yourself.
Regardless of whether you are a people person or not, we all at some time or another just need time for ourselves. Some of us need it more than others, but regardless, we all need it. So this is again not something we should feel the need to apologize for because it’s something we need. Time is one thing we never get back and we need to embrace it while we can. So if you need a few moments to yourself so you can get back into a headspace you need to be in, don’t fight it. Don’t feel like you have to justify it. Your time is yours and how you spend it is up to you.
5. Asking questions.
This is a weird one that I often find myself apologizing for. Especially if someone asks me to do something and I need to ask some clarifying questions. This is something that I don’t even know if other people apologize for, but I do it a lot. But if you do find yourself apologizing for asking questions or needing assistance on something, it’s important to know that it’s okay. You are allowed to ask questions. You are allowed to need help. You don’t have to everything by yourself all the time. Just ask the questions and find people who want to help.
6. Accomplishing anything.
We should never apologize for our accomplishments. If you do something that you are proud of or that you worked really hard for, you should not have to apologize for that. You shouldn’t feel the need to downplay any kind of success you have had for the sake of others. Be proud of the things you have done and all your hard work. No matter how big or small your accomplishments are, they are important to you and anyone in your life who can’t support that and be happy for you has their own problems they need to work through. So don’t let anyone bring you down.
7. Changing your mind.
Sometimes we change our mind. Sometimes something that sounds right in the moment later doesn’t seem as fitting. Sometimes we make decisions based on how we feel and those feelings change. The point is, sometimes we change our mind and that’s okay. You are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to make new decisions. You are allowed to make adjustments as needed as long as it is what makes the most sense to you. If something comes up and you find yourself in a situation where things need to change, be open to it.
8. Your feelings.
Your feelings are your feelings and no one can take those away from you. No one else is experiencing how you are feeling or exactly what you are going through. So always know that you are allowed to feel how you feel and you are allowed to express it in a healthy way. The more you accept your feelings and stop apologizing for them, the easier it will be for you to process them and work through them. So don’t apologize for how you feel especially to someone who caused you to feel that way.
9. Your style.
What you wear, what you look like, and how you express yourself to the world is not anyone else’s business. If you want to dress a certain way, do it. If you want to wear makeup or not wear makeup, do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable. If you want to be bold, be bold. If you want to be casual, be casual. Don’t change the way you dress or what you wear to make other people more comfortable. You are the one living your life, not them. You are the one that should be comfortable with what you look like, not them.
10. Anything that is beyond your control.
This is probably one of the biggest ones. I know I often find myself apologizing for things that were never within my control. Maybe I can’t do something because it’s not up to me. Maybe someone messed something up and it’s not something I can personally fix. Maybe it’s just something that is completely out of my wheelhouse. Regardless, I find myself apologizing for things I never had anything to do with. So I have really tried to work on making sure I am only apologizing for things that are my fault and that I have messed up in some way. That way my apologies are much more meaningful.
So those are ten things we all probably need to stop apologizing for. Or maybe at least some of us. I’m willing to bet you probably found at least one thing on this list that you need to stop apologizing for. If you did, let us know in the comments. And if I missed any, let us know those in the comments as well. What do you need to stop apologizing for? Let us know! Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!