Hey guys! Welcome back. So I’ve been feeling super down lately due to stress and just being overwhelmed and I thought maybe there might be someone else out there reading this who feels something similar. So I thought I would share something that might help you in some way if you are also struggling with whatever is happening in your life. I was thinking this morning about how I’ve felt about myself recently and some of the things I have believed for so long. I know these things are not true, but I still continue to tell myself these things most days. And even though I continue to progress and try to be better about the things I believe about myself, it’s still hard sometimes. But I think it’s important to be able to recognize the truths from the lies. So today I wanted to share some lies that I, at one point or another, truly believed about myself.
I don’t deserve good things.
There was a point in my life, not too long ago, where I honestly believed 100% that I did not deserve good things. Not just the nice house, fancy things, and every material thing I could ever want, but also the most basic things. I didn’t think I deserved good friendships or a good job. I didn’t think I deserved to have good confidence or self-esteem. I basically didn’t think I deserved happiness and stability. But the truth is, I deserve those things and so do you. You deserve to have good, encouraging people in your life. You deserve a job that doesn’t suck the life out of you. You deserve to feel good and be happy. It has taken a long time for me to get to a point where I realize I do deserve good things, but we are moving in the right direction at least and that’s all I’m worried about.
I shouldn’t even try.
When I first looked into getting my master’s degree and trying to decide if I really wanted to pursue it, I had this constant thought that I shouldn’t even try because it’s only going to add more stress to my life or my problems. This thought has come up a lot. It came up when I was looking for apartments so I could move. It came up when I started building relationships. It has come up when looking for jobs. It even came up when I started this blog. It’s been a pretty constant thought almost every time I’ve thought about trying something new. But I also know that when I look back on the things I have tried at, even the ones I’ve failed, I have come so far and learned so much. So it’s worth trying, no matter what.
Every thought is absolutely true.
There was a point in my life where I thought every thought I had was 100% accurate because I was the one who thought it. If I thought I was worthless it must be true. If I thought I couldn’t do something it must be true. It wasn’t until I started learning from others who were talking about our thoughts and how they aren’t always accurate that I realized I had been feeding myself a bunch of crap for so long. Learning that not every thought I have is always true has helped me come a long way in overcoming my doubts and insecurities. It’s given me the chance to really test those negative thoughts and figure out if they are really true or if I’m just speaking from a place of insecurity.
I’m not as good as everyone else.
This one is very common for most people I feel like. It’s the classic comparison game. It’s not really true but somehow I think many of us end believing it at some point. I sometimes find myself looking at other people and seeing where they are and what they are doing and I feel like I’m doing life all wrong. But then I realize I have things in my life that some people probably wish they had. So I just try to remind myself that I have so much to be grateful for and that if I want something I can work to have it. But if I’m constantly looking at someone else’s life I will miss out on living my own.
My successes aren’t a big deal.
I’ve spent a lot of time undermining my own accomplishments because I didn’t want to seem like I was bragging or I just didn’t think they were a big deal. I tried to stay in the shadows most of the time and I never really celebrated the big moments that I should have. I kind of shrugged them off and just tried to move on quietly and peacefully. But the older I get and the more I find myself accomplishing, I am seeing the incredible amount of work that I put in everyday and how hard I’m trying all the time. So now I do make more of an effort to be proud of myself and recognize the big and small accomplishments, even if no one is there celebrating with me. It’s worth the moment.
I’m. Just. Lucky.
Oh my goodness. I would tell myself this all the time and looking back it drives me crazy. I honestly believed that I was just lucky and things just happened to come across my path. It wasn’t the hard work. It wasn’t the effort. It wasn’t me caring so much and working endlessly to make things worth. No. It was just luck. I just got lucky. That’s the biggest bunch of crap I’ve ever heard in my life. I’m not “just lucky”. I work really hard. I give 100% of my effort to anything I’m doing (most days) and I see the results that I put in the work for. And if I don’t have something that I want it’s because I’m not working as hard for it and I know that. So it’s not luck. It’s work and I deserve every bit of it.
And that’s it. Those are the biggest lies I have told myself. I mean there are probably more, but these are the ones that stand out to me the most right now. If you also struggle with telling yourself any of these lies, or if anyone else is telling you any of these things because I’ve also been told these by other people, know that they aren’t true. You deserve happiness and anything that you are working for and that’s all. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what lies you have told yourself and how you overcame it. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!