Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I turned 24 years old. Feels the same as yesterday, but it is nonetheless my birthday and it’s time to celebrate that I have indeed survived another year on earth. And with that I thought it would be fun to share 24 things I have learned in my 24 years of life (even though most of them have been learned in the past six years or so). I have learned a lot and still have so much to learn and I always love sharing with you guys. So here’s to 24 years and 24 things I have learned along the way!
1. Listen to your gut.
This is probably one of the biggest ones. I have learned, especially in the past year, how important listening to your gut is and how beneficial it is. If I hadn’t followed my gut and done what I felt was right despite the fear, I wouldn’t be where I am right now. My life has always changed in the best ways when I listen to my gut and follow my heart. I have learned that that gut feeling has always been there for a reason and that if I have a feeling about something, good or bad, that I should listen to it and learn to trust it. So far it hasn’t let me down.
2. Never compromise your values for a guy.
Or a girl for that matter. Basically, don’t compromise your values. But I have especially learned this in relationships that I have had. There are just some things I won’t compromise on because they go against my basic beliefs. It doesn’t mean that I’m right and they’re wrong. It just means that I need to stay true to who I am and what I believe. There are people out there who will align with my core values and morals, so I shouldn’t feel the need to change who I am at my core for others. Some things I will compromise on, but never the things I hold true to me the most.
3. It’s okay to reinvent yourself.
I’ve gone through quite the transformation, especially in this past year. In terms of what I want to do with my life, the direction I’m headed, and the relationship I have built with myself, I have grown to really connect with myself. Because of that there are a lot of things that have changed. I have always been really unsure of who I wanted to be and what path I wanted to follow, but this year really taught me what I truly want and helped show me a path that works for me. And I have learned that it’s always okay to change your mind because as you grow things will change.
4. Pay attention to the things that bring your joy.
There are so many times that I spent more time paying attention to things that made me unhappy and trying to get them to make me happy that I completely ignored the things that were actually bringing me joy. So I learned along the way that I needed to start paying more attention to the things that are already bringing me joy and let go of anything that is not. I can’t force anything to make me happy and I won’t get anywhere trying. So it’s best to just let them go and spend time doing the things that are making me happy and that I really enjoy.
5. Cherish the people that believe in you.
There are some things in life that are worth celebrating, like when you accomplish something big. And I have learned that it’s important to pay attention to how the people in your life react when you accomplish someone. The people who are most excited for you and celebrate with you are the people who believe in you the most and those people should be cherished. Hold on to those people because there are people who won’t believe in you. There are people who will try to tear you down and make you feel unworthy. It’s moments like that you will want to focus more on the ones who believe in you.
6. Get our of your own way.
There have been many times in my life where I haven’t done something I wanted or had something I wanted because I talked myself out of. I let myself believe that I couldn’t do it or couldn’t have it. I have sabotaged myself more than any other person and I have paid dearly because of it. I don’t really have regrets because I am really happy with where I ended up, but it doesn’t mean I didn’t learn the lesson. It goes back to the following your gut thing. Sometimes you have to get out of your own way before you can get anything done.
7. Not everyone is going to like you.
And that’s okay. Really it’s okay. As someone who has always struggled with this idea, I now know it to be true. There will always be someone who doesn’t like the person I am, what I’m doing, how I’m doing it, or why I’m doing it. That doesn’t mean that they are a bad person or that I am doing something wrong, it just means we don’t align on everything and that’s normal. I mean there are plenty of people that I don’t necessarily like but that doesn’t mean I go around tearing them down. I just keep my distance and focus on the people I do like.
8. God can achieve the impossible.
This is another really big one. I have spent the last year especially learning this one. I learned that God can pull you out of any situation and put you into any situation, sometimes in the most bizarre ways. Nothing about the past year of my life has been normal and I can’t help but know that it was the work of God. I made it through one of the most challenging few months of my life and into a new chapter of life that has been better than I could have ever imagined. And I know without a shadow of a doubt that I could not have done all of it on my own.
9. Breaks are important.
Hard work is really important. I have always known that and most days I do work hard. But I have also learned that while working hard and being productive is really important, so is rest. Breaks are important because without them burn out is far more common and much bigger of a problem. We all need some time to take a break sometimes and we should be taking breaks. Work/life balance is important and it’s impossible to have if you aren’t taking some time for yourself. Life is hard enough without the pressure to always be on.
10. People will judge you no matter what.
This is similar to people not liking you, but somewhat different. There are going to be people who judge you regardless of what you are doing. Whether it’s the job you have, not having a job, doing something crazy, or doing nothing at all, people are going to have an opinion. And do you know what that means? Exactly. Do what you want. Think about it. If someone is going to judge you for pursuing your passion, a different person is going to judge you if you don’t. So if you really want to do something, don’t worry so much about what other people think.
11. Be patient with yourself.
All good things come with time. Growth is a constant process and that requires change. So be patient with yourself. You won’t always get things the first go around and some you won’t get at all. That’s okay. In the times when I wanted to give up the most I learned to trust the process and know that things will work out the way they are meant to, when they are meant to. It does me no good to worry about it or stress about it because everything will come with time. So just hang in there and know that you will get where you need to be eventually.
12. Being kind is powerful.
There are many people who are not kind and they think that is getting them farther in life. And maybe for some people it is. However, I have seen how powerful kindness is and what that kindness can do for others. Sure, you can be unkind and have gained a lot for yourself, but kindness helps others and I think at the end of the day that is far more valuable. Kind words, kind actions, and kind intentions are far more helpful and make the world a better place. Kindness is something I value and helping others is something I always strive to do.
13. Be proud of your accomplishments.
Speaking of kindness, be kind to yourself. Your accomplishments mean you worked hard, sacrificed, and did something really great and you deserve to celebrate that. Even if no one else thinks it’s a big deal, only you know what it really took to get where you are and you should be proud of yourself. Even if it doesn’t feel like something big, you can still be proud because it’s still an accomplishment. Life is hard and sometimes just getting back up when life knocks you down is an accomplishment. So celebrate yourself and be proud in those moments.
14. Love is the greatest thing.
It’s not money. It’s not success. It’s not power. It’s love. Love is the greatest thing you can give and receive. When you love, you give it your all. So if you love someone, you give them every part of you. When you love your job, you give it your best effort. When you love something, you dedicate yourself to it. Love is great, love is powerful, and true love is very rare. It’s not something that can be forced. It’s not something that comes easy. It takes work, dedication, and full commitment to really love something. So when you find it, don’t let it go.
15. Be yourself.
This ties into a lot of other ones, but it’s a really important one. We only have one life with a limited amount of time on the planet. And you can spend that time being someone else or trying to live up to someone else’s standards, but at the end of the day they don’t have to get up everyday and live with the choices you are making. So you have to make decisions based on what you want to do and what feels best for you. That’s the only way you can really find peace in what you are doing and how your life is going. Stay true to yourself.
16. Don’t believe everything you think about yourself.
I used to think that everything I thought was absolutely 100% true because it was coming from my brain. But that’s not the case. I had a really negative perception of myself and my life and had really negative thoughts all the time. I was really hard on myself and they incredibly unrealistic standards for myself. I have had to work really hard to change that and to feel like I was doing something good, but it hasn’t been easy. And I have learned that just because I think something negative about myself doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true and that if I don’t like something I can change it.
17. Rejection isn’t always a bad thing.
No one likes being rejected. It’s never fun or easy. But rejection also isn’t always a bad thing. I like to look at rejection as protection from something. Maybe it’s protection from a person or something that might happen. Rejection is also sometimes a redirection. When you get rejected you look for other options and possibilities, sometimes things you may have missed if you hadn’t been rejected from the first thing. So it’s always helpful to know that even though rejection is not always the easiest thing, it’s also not always the worst thing that can happen.
18. Gratitude changes everything.
Gratitude is extremely important. When you lead with a grateful heart, you lead with a heart that knows what it has. It’s so easy to focus on the things we don’t have and the things we want, but when we look around and notice all the amazing things we already have, we realize just how full our life already is. Gratitude helps us see all the things we have and helps us realize that things aren’t always as bad as they seem. Our lives can very easily be dictated by focusing on the things we are missing, but it is so much better when we focus on what we have in front of us.
19. Sometimes what we don’t want ends up being the greatest gift.
There are some things that have happened that I really didn’t want to happen, but I had no control over. And when those things happened I was really unhappy and I was really resistant at first. But I have learned that sometimes those things that we really wish wouldn’t happen end up being the greatest blessings. It’s the things, the people, and the moments that I didn’t ask for that end up bringing me the most in the end. It’s those things that help me realize that just because something seems like it won’t be good, in the end it was one of the best things for me and for that I am grateful.
20. Don’t be afraid to fail.
I used to be really afraid to try new things and put myself out there because I was really afraid of failure. I was afraid to try anything that I wasn’t completely sure that I could be successful at because I didn’t want anyone to see me fail. But I have learned that failure is a part of life and that I learn the most when I fail. It can also be a huge blessing because even though I failed at one thing doesn’t mean I’m not getting something out of it. Failure is important because it means that you are trying something and that’s really important.
21. Knowing what you don’t want is important too.
We spend a lot of time pursuing the things we want and focusing on the things we know we are good at. But another reason that we shouldn’t be afraid to fail is because failure shows us what we don’t want. It helps us see where we fall short. And that’s a good thing because it narrows down your options on things you do want and that you know you can do. No one is ever going to be 100% perfect at everything they try and there is no point in even attempting. You are so much more than your failures, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t meaningful.
22. Just start.
Most of the time the hardest part of anything I want to do is just starting. And I know once I start everything else will follow behind and it won’t seem so hard anymore. And I know when something is really scary or I’m really nervous about doing something that the best thing I can do is just get started because once I do the nerves will go away and I will be find. But if I never start then I’ll never know and then I will have missed what could have been something really amazing. So I always know to just start and hope for the best. Worrying won’t change anything.
23. Anxiety is paralyzing.
Anxiety is something I have struggled with most of my life and it’s changed me in so many ways. There have been so many things I didn’t do or never tried because I let my anxiety talk me out of it. There are many relationships I let go of because my anxiety convinced me that I wasn’t good enough for them or I didn’t deserve them. There are so many opportunities I let go of because I was so sure that it wouldn’t work out. It’s been really hard to learn to not let my anxiety get the best of me, but it hasn’t always been easy. It’s been a constant struggle.
24. True friendships are hard to come by.
My friendships mean so much to me because without them I wouldn’t be the person that I am. Life is hard, but it’s made so much better with good friends and lots of fun. My friends are some of the most fun and bring the most joy into my life. It wouldn’t be the same without them and I couldn’t imagine not having any of them in my life anymore. I am so happy to have them and I am grateful that I get the opportunity to see them and spend time with them as much as I have. I am also thankful that I have had the opportunity to live with some of my best friends because it has brought us closer together.
And that’s it! That took a really long time to type out, but it was a lot of fun. Needless to say, I have learned a lot. I have a really good feeling that 24 is going to be a really good year and I really can’t wait to see what comes of it. 23 was really good to me, so I have high hopes. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments if you have any life lessons you would like to share. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!