Hey guys! Welcome back. Have you ever hit a point where you feel like everything has kind of just stopped? Like what you want to happen just isn’t happening, you aren’t as excited as you used to be, and you just can’t find the next step forward? Well if so, I am here to let you know that you are not alone. I’ve been there. In fact, I’m there right now. I’ve been battling these past couple of weeks with feeling really low and unhappy. I’ve struggled with getting things together and doing the things I need to do to get my life back on track. And I realized that a lot of the problem, not all of it but a great deal of it, is that I sabotage my own happiness. Whenever something good happens, I either ignore it or I look at it in a negative way. Whenever a really great opportunity comes along I turn it down because I feel like I’m either not ready or it won’t happen anyway. So today I wanted to share some common ways that we sometimes sabotage our own happiness in hopes that it might help you if you are feeling a similar way.
You think life is working against you instead of for you.
When we think of life as being against us we tend to sideline everything in fear that it might cause us harm. Even the really good things. We think that we aren’t good enough or worthy of great things because things haven’t always worked out for us in the past. We think that everyone thinks badly of us because we think badly of ourselves. When we think of life as being against us and working against us we tend to avoid new things. This can lead to a stagnant life and feeling stuck somewhere we don’t necessarily want to be because we aren’t open to anything that might cause change.
You don’t trust yourself.
If you can’t trust yourself, you can’t trust your instincts, choices, or thoughts. This leads to you not pursuing your dreams and ambitions. It leads to a lack of action and persistence. It also can keep you from feeling able to open up about what you are going through and any struggles you might have. When you can’t trust yourself, you don’t make the decisions to do the things that are going to lead you to the life you want. Instead you make excuses and live within the realm of what is holding you back and keeping you in an unhappy situation. Choosing the easy life has it’s advantages for sure, but it’s not always the easy life that is going to make you the most happy and that’s important to remember.
You never put yourself first.
When it comes to happiness and making sure that we are doing what makes us happy, it’s kind of hard to do that if we aren’t putting ourselves first. I’m not saying that you should never put others first because you absolutely should. But there are times when it’s really important to put yourself first and make sure that you are taking care of your own needs. You can’t pour from an empty glass and it’s important to make sure you are filling up your own cup before you try to fill everyone else’s.
You avoid confrontation.
I’m guilty of this one for sure. Avoiding confrontation isn’t always a bad thing, but it can lead to a lot of resentment and unhappiness if you never confront anyone about anything. Bottling things up and keeping all of your feelings inside doesn’t help anyone, including yourself. And if you are always avoiding confrontation because you are afraid of how others react your happiness is going to diminish. You can’t be happy if you are not first at peace and you can’t have peace if you always avoid expressing yourself and allowing yourself to be open with the people in your life.
You avoid failure.
Sometimes we think that by avoiding failure or rejection that we will be happy because we won’t have to deal with the shame or sadness of not getting what we wanted or tried to hard for. But I know from experience that avoiding failure is not the same as avoiding shame or sadness. Failure is a natural part of life and if you aren’t failing at least sometimes you aren’t trying enough new things. So don’t be afraid to put yourself out there because no matter what the outcome is at least you won’t be left wondering what might have been.
And with that, those are some of the ways you might be sabotaging your own happiness. Always remember that happiness is not a destination, but a journey. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments if you can think of any other ways people sabotage their happiness. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!