Hey guys! Welcome back. Toxic relationships are something that many of unfortunately have to experience at one point or another. For some of us it’s a family member, for some it a friendship, for some it’s a romantic partner, and for some it’s even a work relationship. There are so many variations of toxic relationships and sometimes we can’t always get out in time or even recognize that it’s toxic. And when you do manage to get out it can be difficult to heal from it and overcome what happened. So today I thought I would share some things that have helped me and some tips that I was given that have helped me on my journey to heal.
Recognize what happened.
When you first leave a toxic relationship, regardless of what kind of relationship it was, it can be challenging to fully recognize and accept what happened. But it’s really important for you to be brutally honest with yourself and come to terms with what really happened. This can help you not only start to come to terms with the relationship ending, but also help prevent you from falling back in with that person. Recognize that toxic behaviors are not just mistakes. They are patterns and behaviors that aren’t going to go away overnight.
Distance yourself from that person.
This is a really big challenge, especially if it’s a family member or someone you work with. You may not be able to cut off all communication and contact with that person. If you can, it’s best to do that, but if you can’t you should limit your contact with them as much as you can. Knowing that they can still get to you is one way for a toxic individual to manipulate their way back into your life. So make sure you hold your ground and do what’s best for you. It can be tricky, but it’s not impossible.
Find your support group.
For most of us we thankfully have a support system already when it comes time to end a toxic relationship. We can lean on these individuals for support and assistance when we really need it. Having a really good support system keeps you from feeling as isolated and alone. They can also help you find a safe way to leave the relationship and move forward in a healthy way. You can lean on them and trust them to make sure that you are as safe as possible during this transition. It’s always best to have someone in your corner during this time.
Let go of the regret.
It’s easy to look at this as a negative situation and find all the reasons to regret being in the relationship, staying in the relationship, and ultimately leaving the relationship. But it’s important to know that none of these are things you should feel guilty for or regret. You are not alone in dealing with a toxic relationship and you are not the first person to survive. This will ultimately make you stronger and help you realize your worth in all of this. Try to focus more on the positives and I promise you will make it through.
Focus on yourself.
Now is your time to be selfish. It’s time to stop trying to please everyone else and stop trying to live up to everyone else’s standards and expectations. Right now is your time to do what is best for you. Leaving a toxic relationship is mentally and emotionally draining and exhausting. Now is not the time to focus on everyone else. Right now is the time to make sure that you are safe and that you are taking care of your own health and well-being.
This one is tough. It may be the hardest one. Forgiving someone who hurt you is never an easy thing because it’s easy to believe they don’t deserve it, and they don’t. But you do. You deserve to move forward. You deserve to let go of the hurt and sadness. You deserve to forgive yourself for putting up with it. You deserve to find peace and happiness in this. So don’t forgive them because they deserve it, forgive them because you know you deserve it. Let go of all the negative feelings you are holding in because it won’t help anything.
Toxic relationships are never easy, and leaving can sometimes be even more difficult but it’s worth it in the end. Life is hard enough without having people in our lives who make it harder. You deserve peace and happiness no matter what anyone tells you. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you find this helpful. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments if you have any tips for leaving a toxic relationship or healing from a toxic relationship. Offer any advice you can down in the comments because it’s tough for all of us. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!