Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are having a great weekend. I am here today to talk about relationships, and more importantly, boundaries in relationships. I know from experience that creating boundaries in relationships can be challenging, especially when it comes to the people who are closest to you. But I also know how important it is and how beneficial it can be to the overall relationship. Boundaries are important because they help you ensure that you are taken care of and have your own space. So today I wanted to share some tips for finding and creating healthy boundaries in relationships.
Know your deal breakers.
Regardless of what kind of relationship it is, we all have deal breakers when it comes to the people we have in our lives. And if you don’t have deal breakers, now is the time to figure out what they are. Know what you want and don’t want in a relationship. Know what kind of expectations you have when it comes to the people you allow in your life and the qualities that are most important to you for those individuals to have. Don’t get too crazy with too many deal breakers, but have enough to know the kind of people you want in your life.
Tune into your feelings.
There are some people in our lives that don’t necessarily fit as well as we would like them to. They can be negative, rude, or just not the kinds of people who make you feel good. Pay attention to those people and how they make you feel. Also pay attention to the people who do make you feel good. It’s important to pay attention to how people make you feel because you aren’t necessarily going to set the same boundaries for every single person in your life. Depending on the relationship and the person, they may need different boundaries and that’s okay.
Make your boundaries clear and simple.
There are bound to be people in your life that simply don’t respect your boundaries. Whether it’s a parent, a friend, a coworker, or even a significant other, some people don’t acknowledge or respect boundaries. That’s why it’s important to make sure you are clear about your boundaries with everyone and make sure they are simple and easy to understand. This prevents those individuals from being able to say they didn’t understand the boundary or didn’t think it applied to them. Make sure they are aware of what your boundaries are at all times.
Consider your past.
It’s important not to live in the past and dwell on things that are no longer a part of your life, however, when it comes to creating boundaries it’s important to consider the bigger things that have happened and how you can prevent them in the future. It helps you know what is important to you and what you want to avoid moving forward. Consider how people have treated you, things people have done, and how you’ve felt in times where you didn’t have the boundaries you want to have now. It will serve you well in creating those boundaries.
Prioritize self care.
It’s important to help others and be there when you can, but I also know from experience that it’s important to help yourself. It’s impossible to fill someone else’s cup if yours is already empty, so you have to make sure you are taking care of yourself. Setting boundaries helps you do that because you can spend more time prioritizing yourself and making sure that you are doing what’s best for you. Don’t avoid everyone all the time, but make sure you are spending that quality time with yourself so you can keep helping others.
Not all of the boundaries you create are going to work out. Changes will need to be made most likely. So it’s really important to start small and not go overboard when you start creating boundaries. Keep your expectations minimal and you can build on that momentum once you start getting more comfortable. Don’t push everything on everyone all at once because you are less likely to get overwhelmed and drop everything if you start off a bit slower. Remember that you can always change things and add things as needed.
So those are my tips for creating healthy boundaries in relationships. These work for all kinds of relationships and have really benefited me. I hope you benefit from them as well. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what your tips are for finding and creating healthy boundaries in relationships. We could all use some new tips I’m sure. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!