Hey guys! Welcome back. Mindset is really important because the things you let play in your mind are extremely important. They affect the way you think about yourself, the way you feel about yourself, and the way you allow other people to treat you. So today I wanted to share five mindsets that are extremely negative that you really need to let go of if you want to start living a better and happier life. These are very common and things most of us have said or thought at one point in our lives that really do us no good in the long run. So here are the mindsets to let go of so you can stop holding yourself back and really start to live your best life.
1. That you are not good enough.
“Not good enough” isn’t even a thing. It’s not real. The truth is you will always be good enough for the people and the things that are meant to be yours. Whether it’s a job you really want, a relationship you really want, or just something in general that you really want. Whatever it is, you are absolutely good enough to have it. This mindset holds us back so much because we often fear that kind of rejection. We don’t want to not get whatever it is or to have it go to someone else. So often we don’t even try. But not trying really isn’t any better. All it’s doing is keeping you where you are and feeding into that mindset that you aren’t good enough when you actually are.
2. That no one loves you.
This also couldn’t be further from the truth. Trust me. I’ve been there. But even if you feel like no one loves you right now, that doesn’t mean no one ever will. It just means you haven’t found the right people yet. People love you. People care about you. People want you to succeed and grow and be happy. But shutting yourself down and never letting anyone in won’t help you see that. You have to give people the opportunity to show you that they love you and really be there for you. Sure, you risk getting hurt, but you risk getting hurt either way. And you never know, someone might come along and completely surprise you. So just trust me on this one.
3. You always have to struggle.
Sometimes we go through challenges. Sometimes we feel as though we will never catch a break. Sometimes it’s hard for us to find the light at the end of the tunnel. And sometimes that can lead us to believe that we always have to struggle, especially if we are trying to get things we really want. But life doesn’t always have to be a struggle. The truth is there will be things in life that come more naturally or suddenly. There will be times when things come easily. That doesn’t mean we don’t still have to work hard, but it just means that you shouldn’t always have to struggle. It shouldn’t feel like you are constantly fighting an uphill battle. Life is no fun that way and you really won’t get very far if you keep believing it.
4. You can’t change your mind.
Sometimes we decide to do something or try something only to realize it’s not something we actually want. But we feel like, especially when it’s a major change, that we have to stick with it because we can’t go back or do something else. That’s not true. No matter what, if you aren’t happy in your current situation or circumstance, you are allowed to change your mind. You are allowed to quit and do something else. The beauty of life is that it is filled with so many different opportunities and options and no one is stuck if they don’t really want to be. Sometimes you have to take a chance, but it might just work out. Just keep trying until you find the thing that sticks.
5. You have to keep the peace.
So often when someone hurts us or does something wrong, we feel like we can’t fight back or that we have to just sit by and try to keep the peace. We feel it is our responsibility to be the bigger person and let it go. I think this is one of the biggest mistakes we can make because it allows other people to treat us however they want and it allows ourselves to think that we have to just let them do it. Know that you don’t always have to keep the peace if someone is hurting you or does something that you don’t like. You don’t have to allow people to do and say whatever they want to you. You deserve more than that and it’s up to you to let people know that.
Starting the process of letting go of these mindsets will lead to much better things in the future. It won’t be easy, especially in the beginning, but it’s so important if you want to live a more positive and happy life. And just know that no matter what anyone else tells you, you do deserve to be happy. It’s the most important thing. Thank you so much for stopping by! I really hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let us know in the comments what mindsets you think hold people back and that we should be letting go of to move on to better things. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!